This was my breakup account. I came on Reddit a couple of months ago when he broke up with me, because he said I was “too good” for him. I begged (yes that’s right, basically begged him) not to end things. We got back together and it has been a never ending mind fuck ever since.
Six months, ladies. Six months I crushed on this dumb ass fucker, who knew I was too good for him. Today, after months of reading through the sub, months of reading books like He’s Just Not That Into You and Why Men Love Bitches, I finally, fucking finally, see the light. I made all the stupid mistakes: being too available, being emotional, being needy, being “chill” and “cool” and overall being a big stupid dumb ass. I paid for dates. I stayed up late for his “needs”. He cancelled on me left and right.
Finally I removed him from SM, hardest was snap since we were besties (lol, what a fucking insane app this is). I will never date anyone that uses Snapchat again. Lesson learned. Thank you ladies so much for your hard truths. Thanks for this amazing space for women.
I re-downloaded bumble last night and as much as I hate dating, I know I need to get out there and the quicker I do that, the quicker I can forget this guy.
Good luck to anyone else going through shit with their stupid idiots. Hope you wake up one day and realize you deserve better.
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I struggle with this but I’m honestly trying to get out of my same old-same old. I’m reading Kara King and the first couple of chapters she advises this:
I agree with you on Bumble... considering OkCupid and (if I’m super brave) Tinder. I’ve just never been comfortable with too much attention and I have found Bumble to be pretty overwhelming.
Have gotten back into hobbies before I finally broke up with him, so I totally agree with you here.
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Yes, you’re right! I have read a lot of your great advice on here (tysm) and have really thought about Tinder and OkCupid. I’m honestly terrified of Tinder because of all the horror stories. I really hate apps altogether but know it’s kind of a necessary evil. My natural inclination is to hide but I am trying to go against my “natural instincts” which have gotten me nowhere. On bumble, I was planning on doing the absolute bare minimum of a ‘hey’ or 👋🏼. Think that’s ok?
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