What do you do when you've been made uncomfortable at a bar

ino_y · 2019-11-09T06:24:38+00:00

They know they're intimidating. They know that staring sent the message "what are you gonna do about it". They know it's not worth the hassle of reporting or trying to get ANY kind of justice.

They fucking hate being laughed at though. Just look at the outrage this sub is causing for the amount we mock subpar men.

Let your fear and anger turn into laughter at how pathetic they are. Point and laugh. "oh my god, imagine being so unattractive, you have to grab women, because you can't flirt or get consent, hahahahahahah!"

Tell them what they did wrong and how they should feel, how a normal person would feel for being so gross and violating. "lol you had to grab and paw at me because you know I'd shoot you down? You must feel so ugly and embarassed right now, hahahah!"

2019-11-09T06:33:00+00:00

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suaveagave · 2019-11-09T06:32:54+00:00

It’s unpleasant, but the only way these assholes learn is if you make a scene.

I’ve seen such gratifying videos of ladies retaliating physically like in this video, but the reality is that men are violent and retaliating like this could get you seriously physically injured. Men will not hesitate to put their hands on a woman if they’re in a fit of rage.

Causing a scene, loudly exclaiming “why did you grope me” to catch the attention of bystanders, getting security involved (door guys and bouncers usually have zero tolerance for men who are harassing women they need in the establishment). Even if they don’t get kicked out, the embarrassment and the “oh shit what if I really get in trouble this time” feeling will make them think before trying that shit again on their next potential victim.

Caitlin_inNE · 2019-11-09T06:18:39+00:00

I don’t know what country you are from but in Canada that’s sexual assault (the thigh grabbing part). Don’t tolerate that shit.

extraacct1234 · 2019-11-09T14:25:17+00:00

Well when it's just one guy I kick him in the nuts as hard as I can.

I had a group of guys do exactly what you described to me one time and there was nothing that I could do about it. I suppose at most you could tell the bartender or go directly to the bouncer and try to get the whole group kicked out.

VeganRatGod · 2019-11-09T15:32:00+00:00

I'll make a big scene. Yelling and all that. I don't give a FUCK

SaltCupcake · 2019-11-09T16:52:04+00:00

MAKE A SCENE! Expose these assholes. They rely on exactly that to keep doing what you’re doing: that you’re going to keep it cool. Fuck that, I’ll let everybody know that you’re a piece of shit.

syzyergy · 2019-11-09T06:33:57+00:00

tell the bartender or manager. Even if it does nothing it creates a paper trail and a record of them being predators, which might be needed when they escalate to raping someone after the place closes.

Title	What do you do when you've been made uncomfortable at a bar
Author	lawoflargenumbers1
Upvotes	28
Comments	17
Date	November 9, 2019 6:13 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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