Why do crushes feel so obsessive? Because unpredictable rewards turn dopamine production into overdrive. Think of app use as an analogy.

eveninghope · 2020-08-03T16:41:11+00:00

I've only been here for a few weeks but have seen so many posts about "why does this crush feel soooo obsessive." Well because our brains+socialization have programmed us like that. In mice studies, when mice press a lever and the food pellet comes randomly, it causes addictive behaviors, whereas when the food comes on a set schedule, mice just live normally. Think about your crush like this. You have no idea what he's thinking so any time he shows you attention/affection/blah blah, it's like a random reward. Look into cognitive behavioral therapy to rewire your brain. Stay woke, sis.

yegerska · 2020-08-03T17:18:32+00:00

Toxic relationships work the same way because of intermittent reinforcement. You can stop loving a person a long time ago but still finding yourself helpless and being unable to leave. This really should be teached at schools

YveisGrey · 2020-08-03T20:55:21+00:00

Interesting this also explains why FDS strategies work and why pick me strategies don't. Plenty of women think giving men rewards for doing the bare minimum will help their relationship welp that's clearly false.

Deadgirl1888 · 2020-08-03T20:37:44+00:00

Crushes are dangerous you give way too much power to the person you are crushing on.

2020-08-03T20:01:05+00:00

It’s the same principle behind gambling, particularly slot machines

Title	Why do crushes feel so obsessive? Because unpredictable rewards turn dopamine production into overdrive. Think of app use as an analogy.
Author	eveninghope
Upvotes	141
Comments	9
Date	August 3, 2020 4:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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