My previous toxic relationship was with my ex boyfriend of 5 years who gaslighted me and manipulated me. Now I have focused on learning what a healthy relationship is, my toxic traits and what to tolerate.
I met this guy about 3 weeks ago at work and from the moment I saw him, I initiated contact. He wasn't talkative but very private so I left it to that. Que a few days and we are texting from morning to late at night. He however doesn't know English at all, just on a very basic level so we have no way to openly communicate with each other. Miscommunication was a major issue in my previous relationship and I don't want to have to re-explain myself again. He doesn't understand many words from what I say.
We met one day, had a date and he spent the whole day with me. He didn't want to leave. I was hoping to spend just 2-3 hours with him but he didn't get the hint. We ended up making out because I also like him very much.
However, he is what I call basic. He doesn't have any specific interests, hobbies. Now the red flags are he constantly berates himself, says everyone hates him, that he's stupid, etc. He started saying the world looks brighter with me in it and now he has hope. I don't want to be anyone's savior.
I feel a strange connection towards him and his eyes are so magnetic, typically Scorpio eyes. When we're together I can't help but feel drawn.
Well, last night he followed me on insta and liked all of my 60 uploaded pictures over the 5 years, just after I told him I want to take things slowly. He had said he wants a future with me.
This guy is moving too fast and seems too lonely. I says I'm perfect and beautiful but that is just a shell of the person I am.
The thing is, we are coworkers and there's a big chance he will return to our shop a lot. I don't wanna let him down but I don't want to get into another mess.
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