As a Male, I hate feeling disposable

PricklyGoober · 2021-08-18T02:19:28+00:00

I feel you man. I love what I’m doing (although there are for sure times where it gets stale/ I get burnt out) but I’m not exactly paid much to do it. Definitely not enough to ensure healthcare for old age.

I guess where I differ from you is I don’t aspire to start a family, or have kids. So that’s a huge (cannot be understated) financial burden that I don’t have to care for. I guess that means I also care less about female attention, which I do notice I don’t get much of, but again, I’m very happy with my life now because of an enjoyable job, hobbies.

CyclopeWarrior · 2021-08-18T10:15:39+00:00

That's why a man's ultimate dream is being wanted and needed isn't it. Remind us we aren't just security.

BloomingBrains · 2021-08-19T21:37:09+00:00

A lot of what you're describing is the fault of late stage capitalism as a whole. The corporations view women as equally disposable; they aren't trying specifically to exploit men. If the myth about the wage gap was true and corporations could get away with paying women less, they'd hire 100% women in a heartbeat.

However, I do agree that men (as the expected earning partner) are more at risk of being victimized by this than women are. Especially when you factor hypergamy and the lack of an option to marry up for men. So its really a byproduct of both systems working in tandem.

And even though you may not have the option of marrying up, you do have the option of at least not letting yourself become disposable by being someone else's "ticket up".

But I try to remind myself though that just because others may see me as disposable, that doesn't mean I actually am. That's just what they think and the fact that I'm made to feel that way says more about them than it does for me. I also try not to associate with people who reinforce that idea. For me that meant stepping away from Tinder and taking a break from dating. I absolutely refuse to care whether I'm seen as "high status" or not, which is a hopeless endeavor anyway since wealth inequality has made being "high status" more and more illusive.

Fit-Ad5140 · 2021-08-18T06:22:06+00:00

I just try to get over it and ignore it , only way to increase ones value is to have more money this is how it is

Playful-Ad-8369 · 2021-12-31T13:26:52+00:00

I wish you the best. As a man, I feel this too

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