Community question: How long on average, did it take you to find out the TRUE NATURE, of the women you dated or married?

William_A_Bishop · 2019-01-16T22:00:28+00:00

Generally right after i "opened up" and admitted to having emotions. :/

Atmos2077 · 2019-01-16T21:47:27+00:00

I love my wife, but there was a noticeable change the moment we got engaged.

Global_MGTOW · 2019-01-16T23:07:53+00:00

I used to be extremely blue pilled, some of the stories I have are embarrassing. Even when given clear evidence by some of the girls I dated, I would rationalize their behaviors away with NAWALT thinking. It wasn't until I started to talk and more importantly, LISTEN, to what other men had to say that everything started coming together like several pieces of a puzzle.

Once the blinders came off, I started to see women for what they really are, not who they say they are. It became clear that women are emotional creatures, not logical ones. That women rarely mean what they say and constantly contradict themselves. Or how some women truly cannot feel empathy, how some women only care about themselves and how Briffault's Law determines what women currently think about you as an individual.

PCypher0 · 2019-01-16T21:19:37+00:00

Took me 17 years of my life, basically my entire life...

Corvvs · 2019-01-16T22:59:07+00:00

Always within 9 months of living together, or sooner. 1-2 months cohabitating for the really crazy ones. These are the women that made it past pump & dump.

Some could keep the act up indefinitely when living separately, but even the most unicorn of unicorns was on my nerves in 9 months cohabitating. That was the last one for me so none have lasted more than 9 months.

DWShimoda · 2019-01-16T21:36:59+00:00

Knew it in advance.*

They typically BEGAN to "prove" it all over again by about the 3rd date -- at least they did in my case (back in the day) because I knew what to look for, was more or less just waiting for it to show.

Nowadays, well my personal opinion is that they're already showing it in advance -- I have yet to see an 'online dating profile' (Tinder or PoF or whatever) where they didn't include several major "red flags" right in the photo and description.

* I'd already learned by "observing" -- things with my various older relatives, uncles, cousins, my older brother, etc. -- as well as then having it all confirmed with several of my same school classmate friends (all at least a year+ older than me, most of then 2+ years older, because I'd "skipped" a grade), who started "dating" before I did... so my own experiences were just sort of the "double-confirmation" of the same. I still dated (and had a certain degree of fun doing so) but I never fell for any of the deceptive crap, never let them "control" anything, and never really got "emotionally" tied up with any of them (arguably I was even {somewhat unwittingly, because I couldn't have defined it as such at the time} practicing what is now known as "dread game" style apathy; that is I let them know I really didn't care oe way or another; no "break up threat" ever worked with me, it was just "meh, fine by me"; and I responded to any & all attempts at "croc tears" with a sort of chuckling laughter, because I knew it was an act {which they always instantly proved true, because the moment you chuckle the "flip" and become angry, actual tears don't work like that, LOL}).

Fabianstrategy1 · 2019-01-16T21:41:32+00:00

too long considering the amount of experience I have.

Doogie76 · 2019-01-17T03:38:55+00:00

I found out 6 months after I got married but was too brainwashed by society to accept it for another 15 years. I was dating my soon to be ex-wife for like 3 months when her sister killed herself. I was asked to be a pallbearer which I did not want to do as I only met the woman once and I just see that as true friend kinda of thing not some random person situation. I did a family phone around as I didn't know what to do and the general consensus was I had to do it as they wouldn't ask if there was anyone else to do it. I very reluctantly agree.

About 6 months later after we were married my uncle dies and I want to go to the funeral which is in Northern Canada. My newlywed wife has a hissy fit about the fact that we can't afford it even though the both of us work full-time for the government pulling in over 100k a year. She literally said to me that he wasn't my "real" uncle (I'm sort of adopted - long story short).

You think it ends there? - oh no. Grandfather dies 5 years later - same bullshit - not your "real" family - big fight. Couple years later Grandmother dies. Not as much push back about going but it was still a hassle.

mamny83 · 2019-01-16T21:39:33+00:00

Couple of days on current gf. She's crazy like your typical all women.

[deleted] · 2019-01-16T23:02:34+00:00

I was practically raised on a matriarchy. Being the only boy in the house with a sister, my mother and grandmother i got to know their tricks and lies very well. I don't have male cousins and very few uncles so i didn't have too much of a male figure. But oh boy, i knew all their tricks and how shitty they can be. My mother always blamed my father for leaving us but i never got to see the other face of the coin and how she was towards him. My sister and cousins were all fucking bitches that i could never stand. Same with the girls on my school. I really wish i was born gay.

LiveTheTruth321 · 2019-01-17T03:06:57+00:00

My whole life. Until I learned that its perfectly fine to think for myself and that I'm not the one who is crazy. This was just the last few years, mostly this past year.

ikhwan_arif · 2019-01-17T03:10:06+00:00

I knew about since little, but every time I question it I was told that "it's just me." If anyone ever says that to you, you know that they are hiding something.

whatevescom · 2019-01-17T06:21:27+00:00

First girlfriend was about 6 years, I put up with a lot.

Second was about 2 years. I put up with less.

Most recent and last ever. 6 months.

I am working very hard to make lasting changes and not repeat this again. I have my life back, now is the time to fix the systemic issues i have and become content with my life.

Title	Community question: How long on average, did it take you to find out the TRUE NATURE, of the women you dated or married?
Author	TaiYongMedical
Upvotes	8
Comments	28
Date	January 16, 2019 9:14 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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Knew it in advance.*