Hi guys.

Almost 41 yo divorced, father of two here. They dont live with me.

I was until yesterday on my last attempt LTR. She had the signs of an unicorn for me. Single mother my age, with a daughter, I was cohabitating with them for almost three weeks. It was great for the most part and I was being mostly happy. Great sex, attention, and not finance-wronged in any sense. She, in fact, does better than me, salary-wise.

All the time I was doubting her, I had a hard time believing she has not had anyone in two years, not for sex, not for anything. Yesterday took a turn more serious, as this week she had coffee with a friend, and she just told me this when she came back home, but at the moment she just told me she was waiting too long in the dentist. I felt fucked up. She justified it as better for me not to be thinking about this too long because she knows Im always looking for red flags.

Other stuff: I saw she reached out to his last fling in October, just before us started, even when she said she was done with him since two years. Her kid even said something she did not said before about that relationship and got us into a fight that ended well, surprisingly.

At some point, this year, a girl friend of hers introduced her to a guy she was fucking, like recommending him in a "he is a nice fuck, try him". Later she met him in another city and says that did not had anything with him because she did not liked him. Just dinner and left. Later I found a message also from October where she asks him " When are you dropping for a visit" when he dropped a "happy birthday" note. She was in that city for training reasons due to work. The rest of the conversation was supposedly normal, but I guess you would delete any incriminating lines, if you had sex with the guy, no? Ive seen it before.

Yesterday, after a suspicious move with her cellphone, and after telling her about these things I was thinking, she still defended herself saying "Im not going to stop meeting friends", and I replied that maybe, if you are really serious, you have to focus more on the relationship. Im forseeing way more fucked up situations (Just imagine: Work dinners, another trip, girls night out, whatever...) that are probably gonna be much worse for me when they happen. I really dont want those things in my head.

Am I exaggerating anything? I dont think so, but If Im willing to hear any reason, its from you guys. Anything else is hamster for me.

Thanks