Poster discovers why he has a dead bedroom at home. He overcomes his programming and bails.

"I (25HLM) had been with my girlfriend (25LLF) for 5 years, of which the last 1.5 - 2 years has been a DB. We went from having sex several times a week to once a month at best. I tried just about every bit of advice I could find on here to improve things. We had "the talk" several times, and each time things would improve for maybe a week then we would be back where we started. I tried helping out more with the things she said made her feel stressed - I took on more than my share of the household chores, cleaning, cooking etc. I started hitting the gym several times a week, thinking maybe I was the problem. I tried as hard as I could to avoid getting resentful when she made excuses "No because I haven't had a shower" "No because I just had a shower" or her favourite "I'm too tired" after sitting up until midnight on social media.

Anyway, I had begun to have a gut feeling that she was being unfaithful. So a couple weeks ago I went through her phone while she was asleep and discovered that she has been cheating on me for some time now, which absolutely gutted me but at least I have an answer now as to why she was never interested. In a weird kind of way, it's almost a relief to have such a clear cut reason to leave. Like I always felt that leaving because of a lack of sex would be seen as "shallow" or something.

Anyway, it's over now. We're separated. I'm pretty upset about it but at the same time relieved I'm not going to keep feeling like I'm wasting my 20's in a nearly sexless relationship."

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