This post is all about you (and a reminder to me) to put yourself first.

No, I'm not talking about being an arrogant douche who has fuck all consideration for others. I'm not saying eat the last roll before offering it to a starving child. And I'm not talking about the small shit either.

I'm talking about important stuff now. The big things in life, your purpose, and direction -> Keep yourself in the foreground.

A very basic starting example would be peer pressure, even smoking. Consider a young teen who starts smoking because "It's cool", years later the poor fucker is sitting at 50 with lung disease. Did he put himself first? Hell no, he went along with the group. He went along with the plans and ideas of others, and he pushed himself into the background.

From as young as possible define interests in your life - and keep yourself involved. NEVER just go with the flow.

I'm realistic enough to know many of you here won't end up in monk mode for life. Some of you WILL get married, some of you WILL end up in LTR, and some of you WILL have kids etc. My advice is best remembered ONCE you find yourself attached.

When you're single you will be the focus of your life, right? Well not exactly. If you're a blue pilled simp -> You'll make your whole focus in life about picking up women and along the everlasting path of adventure to find the unicorn. This is absolutely the last thing you want to be doing. PUA or you know (The redpill sub) will teach you to "Lift bro" (seems positive) but their overall message is be better to better chase pussy. What I'm proposing is the opposite.

ENSURE you put yourself first, ALWAYS. If you're single you don't have to answer to anyone, explore life and find your hobbies and interests and carve out a giant slice of this life for yourself. Don't let people tell you who you can and can't be, and don't fall into the "Staring at phone bored" trap. Get fucking real, and do some fucking good. Don't be like the hordes of mindless fucking zombies out there.

If you're married or LTR, then you need to especially pay attention. If you ever think you'll be in one ->Watch this space.

Don't fuck around with this stuff, one of the biggest pitfalls in life is to sit around playing house. You'll go to work and feel accomplished because you pay the bills and have some normality. Blue pilled simps do everything their wife tells them and are compliant. Their mind is so entrapped they don't even have any idea about an external hobby or interest and NEVER think about these things with any genuine urgency. Always like "Maybe someday". Don't be this type of cocksucker.

If you are already this type of cocksucker or recently got divorced. Don't now go back to PUA bullshit, instead -> you guessed it -> Put yourself first.

Heh if you want to go volunteer in Africa -> Btw that's putting yourself first. The opposite would be having some cunt (partner) tell you it's "a nice idea but not very practical".

Do your own shit. If you want to live like a tramp but have some eccentric outlet -> Do that shit. Do what makes you happy (within reason if it's good for you).

At the heart of this message let me tell you virtually no one gives a continental fuck about you. And one day you wake up after being married as a blue pilled cuck and after playing house for a decade and you have absolutely fuck all deep interests. You're not terribly good at doing anything because you never discovered 1/2 your talents. And the reason you never did is you honestly believed you were doing just fine.

Well, you're not doing just fine. This post is yourself in the future writing to you now!

And after all your efforts of playing house, guess what? All your effort to be the most important person in her life, well you failed.

She will any day of the week pick family and friends over you. You're a fucking sideline -> chump. While you're striving for a good solid good relationship at the core because THAT'S ALL YOU HAVE. Well you're not all she has, you might make her top 5 list, but you're in 3rd place - cocksucker.

Coming to this realization will infuriate you. You'll wish you had just fucking started paragliding when she was telling you, it's too expensive. You will wish you had done that dive course when she told you she wasn't interested, and you tried to find shit you could do together. In the end you know what you did? Sit at home and play fucking house!

Don't do it.

With some urgency pull your life up by the jock strings and GET A LIFE. Do it yourself. Don't even fucking google it. Just use the imagination you were born with. ASK YOURSELF, What is it you want to do? And fucking do it.

No one else gives a fuck about you.