Tough talk for tough times, let me have it fellas.

Plate positive on two home pregnancy test, have a doc appointment next week to confirm. She has health insurance so that's good.

The plate, on and off for over a year. I usually tell guys limit it to 6 months. So I need to look in the mirror, was I lying to myself and she was really my GF.

Pregnancy, based on her age, I estimated she had a 5% chance of getting pregnant each month. I was playing Russian roulette and lost.

She wants to keep the kid and says she can do it on her own. Her mother lives with her and she has alot of brothers, sister, cousins. There an immigrant family and they seem to work together to raise kids unlike Americans who send there kids to baby sitters and daycare.

I kinda already have a full plate with full time job and 50/50 co-parent from a past divorce. The plate is not asking for anything but this all has me freaked out. A women will always change their mind .

Red pill tells me marrying or cohabiting with the plate would only makes things worse in the long run.

I would like to be part of the Childs life and help out financially on a voluntary basis. If I consulted with an attorney I know they would tell me to establish paternity 1st. But that would put me in the system for mandatory child support. I would like to keep this out of the system. I know the risk, you help of for 15 years then bam, you get hit for court ordered back payment. She joked, we could mark it as a "hit and run".

I'm 45 and wanted to retire in 10 years, my child would be in college at that time. This has thrown me a curve ball. Can I still be MGTOW (rhetorical and literal)?

Open for debate and comment.