I just posted in another thread regarding red flags. One of my answers got me thinking: Was I sexually assaulted?

Here’s the story: prior to meeting my now-ex-wife, I had only one LTR. That relationship was mostly about the sex.

After that relationship ended, I met my now-ex a few weeks later (way too soon). On one of our first dates I explained to her that I wanted to take my time and not have sex - possibly not even until marriage. I essentially was only looking for friendly companionship while my heart mended from the last breakup (stupid idea).

Only a few weeks later when I went over to her house to pick her up for a company volley ball tournament, she invited me in. She asked me to sit on the sofa and hear her out. She told me she wanted to “do something” for me and asked me not to think bad of her (She was a church girl). She then proceeded to get on her knees and perform oral sex on me.

Seeing all this shit in the news of women accusing men of assault up to 20 years in the past, I’m wondering if this is the same thing? Of course in the eyes of the gynocentric law, or to feminists, or to even my own blue pilled male friends the answer would be NO! I would be laughed at if I cried rape! But deep down inside, I know the act was carried out on me in a manipulative way. It was unwanted but I didn’t even know it at the time. I was in shock that she was actually doing it and couldn’t speak.

As the weeks went on she increased the level of intimacy and initiated more and more intimate acts until I was pretty much hooked and fully “ok” with entering a sexual relationship despite my earlier desire to wait. Society at the time told me “a real man doesn’t run away from sex.” But I wish I had seen the red flags. The eventual divorce rape has been crushing.

Not really looking for sympathy here but hope some of you young fuckers can stay woke and not let this shit happen to you.