Some concerns

Grandpa_MGTOW · 2021-05-06T06:47:57+00:00

I’m thinking when I’m alone and say age 50-60 won’t I be very depressed.

I'm in my 60s. Never married, no kids, enjoying life. I'm definitely not depressed. When I see what has happened with others, I feel lucky.

Would my life have been better if I'd married? Maybe. Who knows? But there are a few of us older MGTOWs who can tell you "life is what you make it".

Grandpa_MGTOW · 2021-05-06T06:31:20+00:00

I think you do you. If you want to get married, then that's what you should do. You know the pitfalls, you know you are taking a chance, but sometimes these things pay off. Some men will be happier being married than being MGTOW.

HOWEVER!

If you think that marriage is a cure for loneliness, you are badly mistaken. Check out r/deadbedrooms. It's tragic. To not be lonely takes a lot of work. Make friends, join clubs. That's the only sure way. You need to do that even if you are married.

As Robin Williams's character in the 2009 film "World’s Greatest Dad" said: "I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone."

Danoco99 · 2021-05-06T06:20:15+00:00

Marriage will bring you a greater depression than you could possibly imagine.

insaniTY151 · 2021-05-06T07:21:15+00:00

There are much lonelier situations you could end up in, than just being alone.

burnett-lignon · 2021-05-06T11:13:50+00:00

Marriage won't keep you from being alone when you're older and being alone doesn't mean you have to be lonely or depressed. I was married when I was 18; my wife died and I have one mentally disabled daughter who lives in a group home 300 miles from me. I have lived happily alone from several years in the country on a small farm and have good friends and neighbors, I have joy in life, am content and satisfied, and hope to stay here until the end.

Solo_and_Simple · 2021-05-06T12:00:18+00:00

I’m thinking when I’m alone and say age 50-60 won’t I be very depressed.

I'm 59, have been monk for 13 years, and I've never been happier in my life. I am very satisfied with my life. My life is full and meaningful. I'm in good physical shape, my finances are excellent, I have friends and family I am connected to, I have a wide variety of interests, I retired early. Life is good.

It's different for everybody, though. Some people need to be married or at least in a romantic-sexual relationship in order to feel happy, good about themselves, and fulfilled in life. I'm not that way, but maybe you are. That's fine. Different strokes. I just wanted to counter your assumption that if you're not in a couple at 50, you'll be depressed. That just isn't true. Doesn't follow at all.

Depression is a matter of physical and mental health. It's not a matter of whether you're coupled or married or not. Don't confuse coupledom with happiness or singlehood with depression. They don't correlate.

SUEDE2BLACK · 2021-05-06T13:12:40+00:00

You don't have to marry her. Everyman I know personally that's 60+ has a woman but isn't married they do cohabitation though.

I have at least 3 uncles my own dad all with the same women for 20+ years never married.

King_Yautja · 2021-05-06T20:12:09+00:00

You'll probably still be alone at 60. Only difference is you'll be divorced and broke.

Frosty-Gate-8094 · 2021-05-06T07:03:31+00:00

Even if you marry there is 50% chance that you will get divorced and still be alone at 50-60 age.

Marriage is neither a necessary nor sufficient for companionship in old age.

But look at the flip side, if you do end up divorced. You will have 50% less assets, 50% less retirement savings and alimony plus child support payment still due at an age, you should have been happily retired.

Instead make money and save for your retirement. When you think enough to last till 75-80 yrs of age, retire and enjoy your rest of life.

You dont need to be married to have kids. (or anything that basically marriage offers- can be earned without marriage too).
But the risks of divorce, false DV/other allegations, alimony are exclusively offered by marriage...

Most countries have common law marriage, so avoid cohabitation too. (In Canada you may have to pay alimony to non- cohabitating GF too).

Is it really worth taking this much risk so that you earn 50% chance of being 'not lonely' at 50-60?
Ask yourself this question.
And make an informed choice.

And I haven't even mentioned that you might have to pay CS for non-biological kids because husband is the default father according to law. (Even if DNA test is negative---- read the law).

sqiop · 2021-05-06T07:02:17+00:00

You know you have been brainwashed from others ( family, friends,woman, guys,work,society,tv,ads) about being alone is a bad thing or something.

Being alone is fucking awesome man, do you know what? Because that makes you more stronger, independent and masculine. Today society wants you to be with someone, and to be a consumer. Buy new stuff, go to the cinema, buy new clothes, bigger house, go to the restaurant, buy buy buy buy.

Society is scared from people like that, it is scared because they cant control them.

People who tell to find someone have kids, they are telling you because they are afraid of being alone.

For men today, even with 2 brain cells, should never be in relationship or get married. EVERYTHING is against you

Do you want that? 70% of Marriages fail. What chance do you have? You like to pay alimony, child support, never see your kids and today woman will make your kids to hate.

MeisterMGTOW · 2021-05-06T11:16:52+00:00

You go ahead. We need dumbasses to marry and reproduce to keep the machine running.

yamahantx700 · 2021-05-06T07:21:10+00:00

If you don't want kids, why are you asking about marriage?

Marriage is what happens after you meet a woman you have chemistry with. Then you figure out your life goals and make a plan to achieve those together. If the family values check out, you propose.

Why marry just to marry? That's ridiculous. Idiotic even. No offense intended. You don't marry for love. No one does. Only fools with no knowledge of history do that stuff.

Title	Some concerns
Author	mickymouse8893
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	May 6, 2021 6:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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