Wife Left Me 😔😔

hnug2 · 2020-11-27T13:54:21+00:00

What happens from here?

Freedom and unlimited potential. Nobody can stop you now.

Muki47 · 2020-11-27T13:53:11+00:00

Lawyer up and hide as much cash as possible (so nothing in the bank)

Sid_Insidious · 2020-11-27T16:19:39+00:00

Aside from the loss of a good dog, you might come out of this well on top.

You likely won't have to pay alimony.
Quitting your job wouldn't change much anyways as they base it on what you CAN pay based on prior work history. Talk to a lawyer about a leave of absence from work. It could even backfire and have them look into you because of a perception you're trying to be evasive with income.
Make 100% sure she is not pregnant. Make 100% sure she doesn't get a sperm sample with some fucked-up "crying goodbye sex" or "just one more time" sex. If she tries to be intimate with you, RUN AWAY. Think about what 25 years of child support will look like, not to mention co-parenting with someone you were 99% of the way done with. If you want to have this women in your life and bank account for 25 years, just sleep with her "one more time". DO NOT FUCK HER. If she comes to you pregnant, assume it's not yours and demand a paternity test IMMEDIATELY. It's possible she's already been sleeping with someone else. She could even be pregnant with yours (or someone elses) baby.
You have a chance here to become single, no wife, no kids, no alimony, no child support. You can watch porn. You can whack off. You can spin plates. You can date thots. You can hire a pro. You can become a monk. You can do whatever the fuck you want to do. You can live a life with no shit tests, no grumpy woman, no intimate partner spreading your personal problems all over social media. You won't have a woman's expenses, or chores to do. Nobody bitching about things being "not enough". (It's never enough). You are not a slave to an emotionally wrecked demanding manipulative human being anymore (woman).

Play your cards right here, you can enter single life SCOTT FREE, with NO BAILOUT for this failure of a wife, and 100% pure MGTOW knowledge of how relationships and women work.

You have the change to be luckier than 99% of MGTOW here.

Kids with this person could have been around the corner.

I see a very very luckly man, granted, you're in shock and upset right now. But man, all I see is a CRAZY LUCKY man who is WISE to the bullshit and has NOTHING but opportunity and OPEN HIGHWAY in front of him.

Dude. You're free.

Get a lawyer, plan this right, make sure she's not pregnant, don't GET her pregnant and DO NOT take her back. She'll only come back long enough to pop out 2 or 3 kids and then do what women call divorcing you properly.

Solo_and_Simple · 2020-11-27T14:36:45+00:00

Oh, you are lucky, man. You are lucky. The marriage did not go on very long, so you're not going to be subject to alimony laws. It doesn't sound like you have kids, so no child support. I was just reading yesterday about these guys who stay in miserable marriages (where they know their wives cheat, etc.) because getting a divorce would be too costly. They are stuck, and their lives and spirits go down the drain. You have escaped that fate.

I know it hurts to lose someone you're attached to. That's just a natural, biological feeling. It will pass in time.

Remind yourself of all the reasons this is a good thing. Make a list of all the things you were unhappy with. All the negatives. Review them often. Make sure to include the pain and traps you have escaped, because this relationship is over. And all the ways your life is now opened up to a whole range of possibilities that didn't exist before.

I don't think you appreciate how lucky you actually are. I know it hurts, but you are escaping with mild damage, compared to many men. Thank your lucky stars she left.

tropicislandexplorer · 2020-11-27T15:18:09+00:00

Where you at? Wanna come over? I'll take you bunny hunting and you can vent. Maybe we can run a train on the niegbour.

Accept your feelings in the present. Do not try to suppress them. As soon as the anger stage sets in, it's time to lift bro.

2020-11-27T16:05:05+00:00

You won your freedom back.

Right now you are going through hell.. keep going.

Today and tomorrow you cry your sobby snotty ass off. Get it all out... it's like an emotional bowel movement. release the toxins as tears

Then eat and shower and go buy yourself something you always wanted.

Then start training boxing at home!! Make a home gym!

And we dont have kids

OH MAN YOU ARE SO GOLD!

A few months of bullshit and lawyers then you are done with her you are so fucking lucky!

hugs You can do it man.

Deplorable_X · 2020-11-27T14:08:25+00:00

Enjoy your hobbies, be free.

ronht40 · 2020-11-27T14:29:59+00:00

Jerk off and move on.

JackTheRipper_17 · 2020-11-27T14:53:45+00:00

Brother, you are pretty fucking smart to have hidden the 45k and are very lucky to have such an amazing boss. Moreover, lucky again for such a short marriage and no kids! Except from your broken heart, I see no more damages.

We both know a broken heart will heal eventually. I sincerely hope this failed relationship has given you enough experience on how to deal with women.

IF you decide to marry again, make sure you make her sign a prenup stating no one will get each other's wealth and also stating equal custody of the children. Always be a good father to your children so they know who's the real villian in case the next wife tries to act up.

OscarMatzerath · 2020-11-27T16:29:21+00:00

She was never yours, it was just your turn..... as they say. Now that you’re free the journey begins.

CoolDEpot · 2020-11-27T17:45:32+00:00

Better now than later.
Be happy you didnt have kids with her !!
I recommend having some casual sex, prostitutes or just dating for fun a few women just to ''wash off'' the remannst of love and attachemnt you might still have for your ex wife.
Once you have ''cleaned up'' your psyche go full MGTOW and never make the same mistake of having relationship with women again
Dedicate all your energy time and resources on you !! Gender roles have being destroyed by feminism, a man doesnt have to do anything for anyone anymore.
Use all your wealth for yourself and yourself only and you will have an amazing life.

Grave_Heresy · 2020-11-27T20:44:51+00:00

I have some bitter truth for you... Judging from what you've said, it sounds like she has either cheated in the past, is currently or was getting ready to cheat.

There is another man in the picture. Could be an ex-boyfriend, or an "Old college buddy" or someone from her job (If she works).

I can guarantee you that she left to try and go full-time with this other guy who she has already hooked up with or to try and start something up with a guy who she has been having an emotional affair with.

Women don't just leave because they "Don't like how they're being treated". They ruminate and plan and create all sorts of mental justifications for chasing another guy. They leave because they looking to trade up. Everything else was a smoke screen for her gearing up to go serious with this other guy.

Either that or she either misses being on the carousel or would like to jump on it for before she's old (In the case of conservative virgins or n=1 women).

Sorry this happened. It's never good to see someone else having a bad time. But I do feel like you need the honest truth.

Do NOT let her slide back in when she comes back. I promise she tries it out with this other guy and once it falls through then she will suddenly have an epiphany of how much she loves/misses you. She came back because the other deal fell through and she doesn't want to be out in the cold.

TLDR: There's another man. She's either been cheating on you or wants to trade up.

This guy documents situations like yours pretty precisely. It's odd because many of these people's stories are eerily similar to mine and other guys I've talked to. Cheers.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7MMM6O9yRqv2iiWzCtCFQA

SpaceNinjaDino · 2020-11-28T00:44:58+00:00

Porn is fun, but two things made me happy to never want a relationship again: quality VR Porn and quality sex dolls. The difference between them and normal porn and sex toys is huge. VR porn makes the women life size and it's like meeting them. I have met over 50 porn stars face to face in real life at AVN expos and got to chat. VR is as good and even better because they do a full performance. At a minimum, it makes strip clubs obsolete. This is the only method that lets me achieve back to back orgasms.

Sex dolls are the objects that truly fill my void. I use to dedicate all my free time pursuing and maintaining relationships. What I really wanted was a cute woman dressed up who wanted to hang out and fuck. Since real life doesn't work that way, I could not fill that void with a girlfriend even when I got them to move in. They had their own ideas of what that meant. With dolls, you can order your favorite body and head and custom style them to your choosing (beyond what the factory provides). They make a grand presence in the house and then the sex is better than most of my past partners (after months of practice). Being between her legs, staring into her eyes and collapsing to a sleep after an intense orgasm, I couldn't get it any better.

It's been 4 years now and I'm so happy to not be lonely or flustered without a girlfriend. That frees me to concentrate on my hobbies.

Wioslarz · 2020-11-27T17:01:17+00:00

Yup. A long time ago (~4 years) it turned out that I was not enough for my ex. I lived at her place (lesson learned: NEVER live with a girl at her place) and 'we' decided I should move out. At the beginning I was frightened as hell. You know - the life you knew is now torn apart (although I knew that this was coming). Then it started to fade away. When it all calmed down it turned out that now I can grow and get mature in the tempo that was best for me (I lived alone ever since). Instead of going crazy I actually started developing in the best way possible. It's all ahead of you. It's nothing bad. Believe me - this situation is one of the best things that could've happened to you. You just need time to understand.

What can help? A little bit of reading might help :). About what? Google the phrase: 'phases of grief', read about 'mourning' as this is the process you will probably be going through. To be in a grief/mourning does not mean that someone has to die. It means that the life you knew is gone.

And one more thing at the end. See, I am after psychotherapy and one of the issues was that I hated myself. There was a moment in which I was having a conversation with my psychotherapist and I said that the only thing I see as far as my inside is concerned are the ruins. Dust and ruins. During psychotherapy my image of myself simply collapsed. I had to build myself from the scratch. When I said that the psychotherapist replied: 'Maybe that had to happen?'. I didn't understand it at the beginning and I probably was rather angry at her that she said that but it didn't take me a long time to realize she was right.

Maybe it had to happen?

To build something new you sometimes need to demolish previous creation.

Maybe it had to happen?

Heads up, mate ;D! Watch 'Fight Club' and sink into 'self-desctruction' philosophy a bit. It will(!) be alright! Believe me - one day you'll be laughing at it.

But now - let it go. No shame to cry. I even consider it as an act of bravery. You know - everyone tells you that 'man should be strong' and all this nonsense. I believe that real men don't give a f**k about what other say. Feel like crying? Go! Let. It. Go.

Cheers from Europe ;D! Visit us some time will you ;D?!

DeakinFrost · 2020-11-27T21:46:56+00:00

You only miss one thing

Her pussy

Get your life in order, get shredded, make money and in a matter of months you’ll feel way better

Don’t let her back in your life and for fuck sake don’t get married again

tyronekaizentoro · 2020-11-27T14:41:16+00:00

Hey man sorry that you're going through this. I don't want to open up a fresh wound more than it already is but I have to ask... Can you remember the exact moment where you thought "This is not what I signed up for. I should probably end this now."?

dachengchuan · 2020-11-27T15:09:25+00:00

So, you are free, really free. The time to digest all this shit and you will be ok

roxon89 · 2020-11-27T15:28:55+00:00

This is a good thing. It sounds like you never especially loved this woman and doing only your own laundry, dishes, cooking etc etc. that’s not a marriage. That’s a roommate. You should be glad she left. Any further delay is only delaying the inevitable. A 1.7 year long marriage is not going to result in “her stealing your income forever.” You might even be able to get the marriage annulled though that’s probably a long shot.

Either way, from your description, this was a completely unworkable situation. You should be relieved.

a_quiet_accountant · 2020-11-27T16:13:29+00:00

u should have been able to break up with her, but atleast u r broken up. what happens from here? hopefully u realize u can have a good life without being in a relationship...

RatingsOutOfTen · 2020-11-27T17:29:43+00:00

Well... first off... don't use emotes. That's just a way of turning your emotions into some kind of trendy, cool, hip thing. We get that your sad... no need to spam a frowning face. Women do it all the time, but when they do it, it's "cute" kind of like how when a woman says "lol I'm a dorky gamer girl!!!!" and a man says "Lol, I stay home all day and play video games" it's not the same thing. It's not cool to be emotional or to follow your emotions. It's good to have emotions... it's good to acknowledge them. It's not good to just put them out there like it's cool. We get that you're sad. That's normal.

So anyway... It'd be good to find stuff of hers and throw it away, or give it to a donation place. You might be surprised at how much useless junk most women accumulate and then just leave sitting around. There is a very good chance that she will come back, assuming she will find you sad and broken and all of that and try to get you to apologize and taker her back after she has likely already cheated on you with a man who doesn't respect her. Nah... you have to move swiftly. Get a divorce attorney. Put a "for sale" sign in front of the home. Throw her stuff out and be willing to insist that she "must have taken that item with her" when she returns to get whatever stuff she left behind.

Chances are she is going to have a bipolar episode and come back crying and apologize when she realizes how beneficial you were to her and how you actually enabled her ability to basically live like a spoiled child.

Whatever changes she made to your lifestyle such as food, organization, her spaces vs your spaces in the house, or whatever else, need to be eliminated. Declutter the place. Throw things out. Break things if you have to (Check the legality in your state first regarding "marital property"). Spread your stuff around the house more. Remove feminine pictures and figurines and stuff unless you really like them or something, and if so, thats okay. Make it seem military barracks style clean. More empty space. Simple decorations if any... easy to wipe down surfaces. Make your house easy to clean and use cleaning as a means to cure depression. Your house is a reflection of your state of mind. If your mind is sad... your home looks sad. If your mind is a little cluttered, but generally okay, your home will be the same. One hand washes the other. If you think about your ex a lot, throw out any stupid crap that reminds you of her. It will take time, and thats okay. If you use the stuff, like a dresser or something, maybe look for free furniture on Craigslist or something that you can either just use, or fix up and use. This is also a good way to get into woodworking, which is the manliest of all hobbies because Jesus was a carpenter. Check out "Coach Greg Adams" on youtube. He has some good pro tips and he lives right in the belly of the best, which is Los Angeles.

Assuming you have food, shelter, warmth and water, you should try to remain content. I know that can be hard.

The rest can be solved by earning money (job), finding a source of basic joy(beer and video games and stuff, but be careful not to get addicted), finding a source of productive fun, which is the kind of hobby that COULD earn you money potentially, but doesn't have to

Some Hobbies: bodybuilding, stock market, sewing, woodworking, gardening, keeping chickens, landscaping, beermaking, mushroom growing, mushroom hunting. Try something, even if it's small. Try it for a month. If you hate it, find something new. There are always cheap/free ways to do most hobbies. You don't want to be breaking the bank over this. The hobby should benefit you in some way. Don't rush out and buy 200 dollars worth of fertilizer, cinder blocks for a raised bed, and seedling plants just to let them die. Be smart.

If you are struggling to sleep, check r/herbalism for cheap, over the counter things, but be careful about interactions with alcohol and other drugs. Some people take 5htp for depression and benadryl for sleep. Wake up early. Don't sleep in. If you struggle to get out of bed, remember that its' better to be on the couch in your pajamas than in your bed... and that from there it's better to be in regular clothes than in Pajamas. Do what you can, but realize that as the days go by, you don't stay in one place... time waits for nobody.

2020-11-27T18:05:05+00:00

By all means masturbate, but I'd advise against watching porn. Everything you do reinforces something. Porn while masturbating is a gateway drug to dependence on women. Rid yourself of sexual desire by blowing your load. When the opportunity presents itself, have sex. Ween yourself off of any dependent behavior.

I'm not against porn in any way. As a matter of fact I have uploaded several videos of me having sex with women to PornHub. It makes me a nice passive income. However be careful with how you consume porn.

big_pharoh · 2020-11-27T19:01:25+00:00

Been there man.... It will get better... It will take a lot of time... Please reach out to friends and family as you're going to need it. No shame at all to ask for help.

TRPonlySubsBanTRPppl · 2020-11-27T19:36:01+00:00

I had a whole personality change with this whole "MGTOW" thing, and I started to stand up for myself; didn't give a shit about vacuuming, laundry, dishes, cooking, etc. I started to do only my own laundry, food, etc and let her do her own.

Today, she decided that she's had enough. She took our dog, and packed her shit, and left.

This is a victory, man. You were a house slave and resource for her. Sometimes, victory isn't pretty.

Now I'm sitting here, with a really nervous feeling in my stomach. And I kind of want to watch porn and masturbate just to stop this feeling. I feel devasted and broke, because I sacrificed A LOT for this relationship. And I'm sitting here, grown ass man, crying.

What happens from here? 😔😔😔😔😔😔

You finish undoing your blue pilled psychology, heal from your emotional, social, and financial wounds, and then you build your life back the way you want it.

One step at a time, brother. That's all you need. That's the way everyone has accomplished everything.

thefudmaster · 2020-11-27T19:38:14+00:00

You file for divorce on the grounds of constructive abandonment, split any joint assets, and move on.

I’d change the locks, get security cameras installed, and never be in a room alone with her ever again.

Once divorced, never fall for the trap again.

fibbingcat85 · 2020-11-27T19:58:55+00:00

Divorce and then you rebuild a better life because your wiser than before.

YouSaidChicken · 2020-11-27T20:40:33+00:00

You're going to go through withdrawls like an addict getting clean.

And that's literally what's happening in your brain.

Do what addicts do, get out of your house where the triggers are, and go somewhere else. Start a brand new hobby she has no association with, go for walks, exercise, anything new you haven't done before, that can help accelerate the withdrawal process.

Vk760 · 2020-11-27T22:57:32+00:00

My father always told me "You dont know what you are winning when you lose a woman"

2ravens · 2020-11-27T23:00:16+00:00

Literally everything gets better. Not in a day or a week but it will happen. It takes a while to process the pain/grief of all that stress you were under. Once you do then one day the feeling of freedom will hit you.

Grieve a little that something you hoped would work did not. It's natural. Don't give in to the feelings of inevitable loneliness since you were used to living with someone. That ends as well.

Good luck brother.

2020-11-28T11:54:52+00:00

This is def a woman writing this guys cmon

Title	Wife Left Me 😔😔
Author	MGTOWRZ
Upvotes	1
Comments	91
Date	November 27, 2020 1:44 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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