Can I salvage this?

weakandsensitive · 2017-11-16T20:20:22+00:00

Post belongs on askMRP

gettingmymojoback · 2017-11-16T18:42:06+00:00

Hmmmm, you’re a gambling addict with a pill addiction...I wonder what the fucking problem might be?

Before you go thinking I’m just an asshole who doesn’t understand....I also suffered a similar injury. Same types of post concussion/brain injury symptoms. The worst of it lasted a year, some of the symptoms I still struggle with over a decade later, one in particular is permanent and related to my memory.

Wanna know how I got out of it? Fucking discipline and accepting that the new “me” would never be the same as the old “me”.

I will say I was fortunate that my doctor and the neurologist I was seeing both refused to put me on any sort of painkillers, sleep aids or opiates. Both flat out said “fuck that, that’s the last thing you need at your age, you WILL be hooked for life”. My doctor in particular was a hard ass Eastern European and looked like he wanted to slap me for asking the question. He basically told me to man up, deal with the symptoms and eventually they would either get better or I would get better at dealing with them.

I have the same advice for you.

Edit: after looking at your post history changed you to gambling addict not professional gambler.

man_in_the_world · 2017-11-16T18:20:43+00:00

We all have our problems, imperfections, and fundamental limitations. Admittedly, yours seem worse than most, and less your own fault than most. I'm sorry.

We all must play the best game we can with the hand we're dealt, nonetheless. When it comes to sexual strategy or saving your marriage, and to developing your masculinity, the sidebar readings and this subreddit can teach you how to best play your hand as a man in this world. More, we can't promise.

Welcome to MRP.

Triadis3 · 2017-11-16T19:54:31+00:00

Wow.

Lots to unpack.

First, I feel you. My fall from alpha was precipitated by getting rearended at 90mph by a pickup truck driven by a junkie. I was on a motorcycle. It was a hit and run. Chronic pain, depression, weight gain, alcohol abuse...all contributed to wife completely losing attraction for me. I turned into a miserable fuck. Took 5 years before I found this place and completely turned my life around. That took 2 years btw. 7 miserable years.

I'm now happier than I ever was, though. Life back on track, my rules, my castle.

Back to you.

So, first, you lost attraction in her eyes by getting hurt. No, not fair, not Disney, not "stand by your man" but that's the plain truth. Gods don't bleed. You bled, so you're just human.

Two, you never had a stable income even before the accident, and furthermore, she carried your ass for two years during the recovery period. In womanese you're not a provider, and worse, are a resource sucker that mommy has to take care of. Both attraction killers.

Three, I assume baby fever means she was hitting the wall. So by definition she was not thinking clearly. You missed a leadership opportunity and just allowed her to both adopt and get pregnant when your relationship is in the most fragile spot it ever was. You failed to lead. You failed to tell her no. Now you're resentful of of your own children. Think that doesn't telegraph to the wife? You made the bed, now you got to lie in it. Adding kids to an unstable mix NEVER works.

( I am very active in the lifestyle/BDSM scene. As such, I get asked a lot about opening relationships. My advice is always,"Adding others is a magnifying glass. If you're happy, in a good place, and have your eyes open, then the magnification is of the goodness. If you're having issues, want to low-key fuck someone else, or are looking to save a relationship, well those negative feelings get magnified by adding more to the mix.")

Kids are magnifying glasses too.

Fourth... you moved states. One of the most stressful things you can do with a young family.

5 - pain pills. Fix that.

6 - minimal sleep.Fix that.

7 - You're not working at all. Fix that.

8 - She has No attraction to you. You are a burden to her.

9 - You are expecting "support" from your wife. That's not going to happen, and furthermore it lowers your value even more because what MAN needs support from his wife.

10 - ( ten already?) You're floating through life, allowing external events to affect you without taking agency for anything. To summarize, your life is shitty. To be honest there's no easy way out. You got a raw deal. But you weren't much of a man before the accident so I can see how this knocked your ship way off course, because you didn't really have a course planned out in the first place.

So. Get a job. Get off the pain pills. Get some sleep. Follow the same steps every sad fuck who finds their way here has to to self actualize and start taking responsibility for yourself and your decisions. Where you are right now is a direct result of the sum of your decisions. Your fault. Make a choice. Get to work. http://www.akimbocomics.com/?p=1086

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-11-16T18:39:39+00:00

Salvage what?

No really...what are you trying to salvage? Because it seems like your current ability to even get through life is fucked. And the reason sucks...like it sounds like it truly truly sucks. But you're not going to be able to plot a course a build a damn thing in life until you figure out just how to get by mentally on a day to day basis.

The brain is a confusing thing to treat...and you heard it yourself that few recover and Dr.s don't know why. So at some point youre going to have to stop holding out your life until you're fixed...and just accept that the bar for you was raised after that accident and you're going to have to hunker down and figure out how to build what you can from here working with what you've got. I'm not saying stop looking for a solution...I'm saying stop expecting to find one. When our blue pill minds all got wrecked when we realized that hypergamy was real...some of us thought in some way "how can I use these tools to get back to the idea of true love" to get back to the way it was...to use red pill tools for a blue pill goal as they say. At some point we had to just admit that that wasn't happening. That's not reality. And build a life from there. Do the same.

Now...What's your plan moving forward?

johneyapocalypse · 2017-11-16T19:20:41+00:00

Been living for a while at death's doorstep.

Not too long ago I walked through that doorway - everything got way worse - like 10 out of 10 bad - and I somehow managed to get through to the other side. Future still isn't so rosy.

I also have "brain" issues - they were exacerbated by the treatment for my illness. Holy hell were they exacerbated. Didn't know medicine could do that to you.

And then there's the forgetfulness. The dullness. My mind drifting away like it's no longer in my own body. Damn.

I understand the frustration. I fucking hate it.

I do not let it get me down. If I do, then I go down with it. That simple.

Lack of sleep is the killer, man. Prioritize sleep likes it's the only fucking thing you have left on earth because it sounds like it might be. I still fail in this regard myself. It's not easy. An active brain can make it tough.

You have to man up. Either that or choose to lay down and die. I faced that same choice and stumbled upon this place.

Some of what you read may sound like bravado. May even sound silly. But the reality is that there is experience here and there is insight. I read this post in Real Alpha. I can't find it now. A bunch of dudes cautioned the Real Alpha guy to be careful, he was potentially fucking with men's lives. Real men with real lives. Damn, that touched me.

You write above that "telling you to man up is the about the stupidest thing a doctor would tell you" yet I'm telling you that you must man up. Seriously. I never thought I could get so low. I was planning my own funeral. I was writing notes for my children to read in the future, long after I was gone.

When you have no more left you only have yourself, man. I repulsed the people around me.

So fucking what? That's life. You either choose to move forward or you don't. You know the right choice, the only choice.

Read about stoicism. It helped me a lot.

stacysmomlovesme · 2017-11-16T19:56:59+00:00

Sorry to hear about your accident and lingering symptoms. The Red Pill works to fix your life and get you women, not a woman. Perhaps this one isnt salvageable, perhaps it is. It doesnt matter much when prescribing the fix.

Hit the sidebar at TRP

stacysmomlovesme · 2017-11-16T19:57:06+00:00

Sorry to hear about your accident and lingering symptoms. The Red Pill works to fix your life and get you women, not a woman. Perhaps this one isnt salvageable, perhaps it is. It doesnt matter much when prescribing the fix.

Hit the sidebar at TRP

Frankdux77 · 2017-11-16T23:13:39+00:00

There’s always treatments to try. Some are snake oil, some have merit. Research shows Keto diet can help. There is still hope.

Frankdux77 · 2017-11-17T07:46:32+00:00

Oh no, robert Paulson, fuck off which ever mod added this.

Title	Can I salvage this?
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Date	November 16, 2017 5:54 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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