First, you all saved my life, so thank you. I separated with my wife in January, but am still married, and am not closing the door on putting my family back together in a Red Pill frame. My ex is starting to get in line more than I had expected in the beginning, but is having a very hard time with it, so she cries constantly. Since my 16 year old daughter is with her mother a lot of the time, she sees her mother crying and is directing her anger at me. She texted me last week and cancelled her visit with me, and I told her that I was disappointed and hurt that she was blaming me. I'm in California, so I have been trying to avoid divorce and family court, which means I don't have a lot of legal authority to go and just take her from her mother's house. She is a very attractive girl (probably an unbiased solid 8.5), so she pretty much gets her way with the boys around her, and I have always been a sucker and given her more than I should until recently. She and I have always been really tight and thus she really doesn't have any daddy issues. She tells me most of the things going on in her life, so I know it is hard for her to keep this up. At the same time I don't know if I should treat her the same way as I would other girls/women. Since being Red Pilled, I have been passing her shit tests with flying colors, but this is a pretty big one, and I'm sure she really is hurting. I don't want her developing daddy issues at the same time I can't have a 16 year old girl controlling my frame. My question is on how to proceed with this. Do you think she knows what she is doing, and is using my love for her as a tool to get me to capitulate to her mother? Should I use a softer hand with her than other females? Her mother and I discussed it today, and both of them have tried to convince me to apologize for telling her I was disappointed in her. Of course I didn't say that and they misquoted me, but what am I going to do, they are women, so it isn't a surprise. My response was that I was not going to apologize for feeling disappointed and hurt and that she is almost a woman and needs to recognize that her decisions effect other people. I don't know if I should reach out to her or not though. It feels like a Blue Pill move to reach out again so quickly, but she is my daughter, so I want to. Is this 45 years of Blue Pill conditioning talking to me, or would it be proper to force the issue because of who she is? Any advice or similar experiences and outcomes would be much appreciated.

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