I've been lurking and reading for a few weeks and have started to work on my own self improvement.

2 interesting side effects have happened.

  1. As I've been more proactively engaging sex with my LTR, my desire for porn usage has all but disappeared. It's kind of like I was using porn as a crutch so I didn't have to initiate sex because it was easier. Now the sex is so much better and I don't need or want the porn.

  2. Since Jr High I have had problems with "stagefright" when going pee. If there is ever anyone in the stall next to me, my urethra clamps up and I can't get a drop out. The past few days, I've been able to let it go freely! I know there are psychological reasons for this, and by viewing myself as a valued and important person, I've destroyed whatever thing was holding me back.

While this site is mainly focused on how to have a better relationship with your wife, I thought it would be nice to hear some success stories on how it simply bettered MY life!