A lot of you men here need to understand your identity in regards to women. You need to wake up and realize why they say in these parts you are the prize. In essence to women you are a pool of resources. From cash, and sex emotions and good times. You are a walking ATM of resources to draw from. They want to make a withdraw of feels whether it's the emotional high from an argument, or she wants money for new clothes. She makes with draws of your time, and energy. The issue is you can be beta mister nice guy and think you are Good Guy tm by doing this with a fake smile all the while resenting her because you get nothing in return, no deposits, nothing. Which of causes passive aggressive fits. Or you can do this from a masculine perspective and take control, give only what you choose to give and freely for its own sake. Then take or make your own withdraws instead. Tell her you want to do xy or z, make plans and then say we are doing this. There are a number of practical ways to exercise this. Stop being emptied out with nothing to show, and your internal resentment will dissipate.