Married 13 years. Got close to divorce a few times. Both have successful carriers. I am more involved in day to day lives. Wife exhibits classic behavior of BPD. Married while I was drifting through life in total blue pill worldview. Now in early 40s; 2 kids later, I see things differently.

Diet. I eat healthy. Kids eat healthy when with me. When with her, it is all fast food.

Ideology. She is a crazy leftist. Me, a libertarian. She believes in victimhood and has dick envy.. so it is hard for her to cooperate on any domain. Only reason she is in the marriage is for financial reasons. High overhead; high cost of living and kids private school...

Diligence at home. No cooking or cleaning. Period. Her mother comes to help clean and fold laundry

Sheltering the kids from issues they are too young to comprehend. I.e. ticktock junk, graphic conversations on dating etc.. (mind you kids are not even 10).

Tired of fighting her. Tired of the kids getting corrupted with stupidity. All this have made me withdraw. I just cant parent one way only for her to undo it.. Kids are being stuck in the middle.

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Men only, please share your experience in this regard.