As I said I am new here and have a lot of Beta tendancies. My wife and I have gone a long time without good sex. In the past two months there has been none. For the last month my wife has said she is no good for me and does not love me "that way" anymore, and has been talking about divorce. Basically there has been no kind of physical affection for the past month. She might be cheating, but I have no proof one way or the other. She attends college and recently has been spending the night with her friends. We also no longer share a bed. I have been on the one downstairs and she is in the bedroom (something which I plan to put an end to). I know I have let this go on way to long. Any advice on how to handle this? What reading would you suggest starting with?

For the past month I have been working hard on myself. I always put a lot into my work. I have been lifting and eating healthy for the last 5 weeks, and am down from 220lb to 200lb. I look and feel a lot better, and my wife has noticed. I've also taken up a couple old hobbies and have begun to refuse to talk about anything regarding her future without me.