Newbie who needs really quick advice!

resolutions316 · 2017-05-19T01:22:19+00:00

Don't get into a big talk about it. Seriously.

She's not attracted to you. Many of us - myself included - have been there or are still there.

It is brutal and painful and awful. But talking it out will just make it worse. You can't talk her into wanting to fuck you.

Just work your MAP. Don't talk about it. Don't tell her you're going to work on yourself. Don't tell her anything.

If she pushes for a big talk, just listen, let her talk, and fog. "You're right, I guess I have been distant." "Yeah, I may have been distant after last night. What's up with me, right?"

Then go to work.

RPJMRP · 2017-05-19T01:21:33+00:00

You should be over in askmrp. You're nowhere near ready to post yet.

Your wife is not attracted to you. Why would she be? You're a lazy fat ass who gets mad at his wife for not wanting to fuck a lazy fat ass.

Become attractive. Do not post here until you've read the sidebar, have worked out for 6 straight weeks, and have lost 10 lbs.

Do not act any different in your marriage. This process is not about your wife. It is about your failure to be a high-value man.

mountainbiker178 · 2017-05-19T01:41:08+00:00

Dude, finding this sub and the other related redpill subs are your life preserver, but you're almost out of time. Your youngest is about to be self-sufficient, which will trigger a new stage in your wife's hypergamous schedule of mating. She'll be free to branch swing and cash out of your marriage. You need to man up, crank up your smv and "just get it" before it's too late.

SlaveToSelf-Made · 2017-05-19T01:23:22+00:00

Read the No More Mr Nice Guy book. It details exactly this scenario and what to do.

BobbyPeru · 2017-05-19T01:49:02+00:00

Become attractive by lifting, sidebarring, and dreading.

weakandsensitive · 2017-05-19T01:32:40+00:00

QUESTION:. What should I say tonight?

You should talk about your feelings and let her know exactly where you are emotionally. She'll appreciate your openness and be aroused by it.

BigAjax · 2017-05-19T02:24:51+00:00

What should I say tonight?

I'd go with, "Hey, sweet-ass, let's go toilet paper the Smith's lawn this weekend."

Don't be a slapdick and talk about your fee-fees, how you have a plan to make the marriage better, or anything serious. At most, if accused, acknowledge you've been distant, but don't try to explain or defend it. Just move on from it as though she told you your tie wasn't a good match for your outfit. And then go fucking lift.

"Alpha job"? Unless your job duties involve banging hot co-eds or anything else that sends the unmistakable signal that other women are eager to fuck you, your job ain't alpha. Alpha is whatever gives tingles, not what conforms to some notion you have of "being a real man."

From what you've said so far, you need to focus on being a lot less unattractive while you're working to make yourself attractive.

ReddJive · 2017-05-19T03:33:50+00:00

Read the sidebar material.

Study.

Start at /r/askmrp your journey starts there.

ElSupremoDeluxe · 2017-05-19T04:05:44+00:00

It all just boils down to you're not fucking her right. Damn near all (there are exceptions) women enjoy sex, and if they're not it's because you haven't found what it is they like. Maybe it's rough; maybe they need a finger up their ass. When you find out what it is, the rest will open up.

Sl0wRideTakeItEasy · 2017-05-19T04:08:45+00:00

Wow 2 hours before deleting- I'm sure that's not the record but it's still impressive

War2kali · 2017-05-19T01:33:21+00:00

Very common situation. Good luck on the road to improvement! This forum has some useful ideas.

Title	Newbie who needs really quick advice!
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Date	May 19, 2017 1:09 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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