So I had an interesting event happen last night , trying to see if it was my OI that changed things or just sheer luck ?

Our sex life had been on the skids for a while , and we were up to around 20 or so days since our last time ( I use the Clue App to Track her Cycle and our Frequency) And I've become more OI , and ratcheting up the Flirting , I even took a Sick day on Friday when she was home for the day to spend time together alone , but a couple of flat tires got in the way of that.

So yesterday and last night , I was being very obvious that I expected sex that night. smacking her ass when around , that kind of thing. and finally we get the older kids to bed, baby to bed , and around 10 we go to bed. More flirting and touching. and she's like nope , your sick ( had a bit of a head cold for a day or 2) so I turn off the bedroom tv , she curls up in a way to not allow me to touch the right spots .

So I don't get mad or anything , just get up , walk into the living room , and hop on the laptop , not looking at porn , but just relaxing. About an hour later she comes out , snuggles up to me on the couch , we go back to bed , and she's ready to go .

Clothes come off and we're having a good time.. Unfortunately our 1 year old woke up , and that ended that, was far too late then to try to put her back to sleep and get back to where we were .

When I left for work this morning , I smacked her ass and told her I expect to pick up where we left off tonight, and a few other things.. she texted me at work and said " great now im getting a cold" and I just said " poor baby , don't worry i'll make you feel better in bed tonight"

So I assume the correct course of action tonight is again try to initiate, but if I get a no just get up and go in the other room. (unless of course she's deathly ill, but this is just a head cold, or allergies and I've been dealing with it fine for a day or 2)