Hi all - I don't know what to make of this so I thought I would pick your brains.

Stumbled upon RP ideas a year or so ago. Started with MMSLP and then NMMNG. I've also read a lot here on Reddit and elsewhere on the interwebs.

I see myself as a high value man. Self employed, good income, decent looking, fit, good father/husband, gets shit done. I've been lifting over the past year and put on some muscle. I started passing shit tests and gotten rid of a lot of covert contracts. Sex frequency has gone up but still not really where I would like it. I always have to be the one to initiate and overall I don't feel like she is all that physically attracted to me.

Sex has always been decent (she's into it and gets off on it) but it still is way too vanilla for my liking and she's not all that flexible about it.

I don't have a lot of sexual experience prior to my marriage. She wasn't my first, but I was a beta bitch so I didn't have a lot of opportunity. She has more experience than me and that appealed to me at the time.

The problem I am having at the moment is that there are many things that are off the table sexually and she is not willing to change much about it. She doesn't enjoy giving or receiving oral but will reluctantly blow me from time to time (never to finish and only if I demand it). Missionary the majority of the time and again if it's different it's reluctantly so. Basically in her mind she knows what she likes and doesn't like and that's that. Well I tell you, this fucking sucks because I'm totally perverted and I want to try all kinds of dirty stuff!

So last night we're getting busy. I tell her to suck my dick which she reluctantly does. I then tell her to suck on my balls and she says no! I pushed a little until I got a firm no. I was disappointed but still hoped to salvage the session so I continued on warming her up. While I am playing with her I have my hand on her ass and am squeezing it firmly. Apparently I was a little to close to her asshole (which is an absolute no go) so she stops what she's doing and tells me I am making her nervous. I tried to ignore her but she won't let up. She fully stops the session because she is "nervous". At this point I know why (near her asshole), but I just act like I don't know what the fuck she is talking about (I swear I didn't touch it or try anything with it). I'm just like - what the fuck are you talking about? Here I am in the moment trying to get you off and you are not here thinking about what might happen. She says that she is nervous because I already made her suck my dick and try to suck my balls so she can't relax because she is too busy thinking what else is this guy going to do? I get pissed because she is so fucking uptight about sex that she can't even relax with her own husband! I ended up leaving the room and didn't talk to her the rest of the evening. She apologized later, but I am starting to think about now how sexually incompatible we really are. The sex was always enjoyable, but as time goes on I need more and it is clear at the moment I am not going to get it. This is disappointing and disheartening and I am now left wondering how to proceed.

I am on my path, I've upped my SMV, but I am not getting the desire from her that I need. Brothers - what to do?