The Main Event?

Morning everyone! Been a few long days and wanted to share. I've previously posted here about a change in the relationship dynamic and the general consensus was I was approaching the Main Event.

Long story....

Since that day 2 weeks ago, things leveled out. No more refusal to break eye contact. Shit tests died for awhile. Sex drive went way up and we fucked every day that following week until shark week started. I was still apprehensive as I felt it went too smooth for it to be a "Main event."

Come last Friday; I had a great day. Cocky at work; Girl I was BSing with asked me if I wanted her number. Shot back a "Not if you're willing to give it out to any stranger!" with a laugh and smile as I walked back to my desk. Later that day as I was doing some work in her vicinity she started talking about her "airbrushing and interest in painting motorcycles and "Wanted my number to send me some of her work." (For context, I'm an avid motorcyclist/racer) I laughed, said sure. Gave it out and told her not to expect a reply but I'd be happy to look. Didn't hear from her so forgot about it for the most part. Went home that night; attempted to use this experience for some dread (Figured it'd be a good time as she was about 5 - 7 from ovulation) I told her about it, went well. Seemed like it was taken as intended. PROBLEM: I failed to tell her I provided my number. Honestly completely forgot about it. Didn't expect to hear from her. That evening as she was nestled in my arm I got a text. It was her. The wife saw it and immediately, "Who is that!?" (Picture was definitely airbrushing but one of these. I told her straight; yes I did. I didn't expect to hear from her. Probably shouldn't have but there were no ill intentions. I left it at that but she was pissed. Insinuated I was cheating on her, that I was keeping secrets and probably have a harem of bitches at work that she doesn't know about. I got the cold shoulder/silent treatment the rest of the night. I remained stoic. Really didn't say much of anything. I took to my own devices and went to bed before her. (Very rare) and left her watching TV as I fell asleep. The next day (Sunday) she didn't do so much as look at me. She went out and did her own thing. When she got home later that evening she was acting better. Almost as if she was trying to pretend it didn't happen and seemed to be looking for attention/affection. She said a lot of untrue/hurtful/spiteful things the night before and I wasn't going to just pretend it didn't happen. However, I was happy, was myself; just didn't give her any affection or any additional attention. Did my own thing. It was evident as the evening went on she wasn't happy with that. That night; for the first time in our ENTIRE relationship of 10 years she went and slept on the couch. (we've always slept together, even after fights, just on our respectable sides) Monday morning as we were both getting ready for work she apologized. (I don't remember all of it as it was early/not awake) but I did cover all the bases. I was surprised and very much felt it was legitimate. AFTER the apology she did say something along the lines of, "I'm not sure I like the new cocky you. You aren't the same guy I fell in love with." Smiled. Told her I very much appreciated the apology. Gave her a hug and told her we can talk tonight.

SOOOO. Winding down.

Last night. Sat her down and had a long talk. Most of it was her talking.

1. She isn't sure she likes the "new" me.
2. She has major concerns that "we have nothing in common for hobbies."
3. I don't "Motivate her and encourage her to do her hobbies (working out etc)"
4. She feels she can either; give me her everything and have her life revolve around me or she can be independent and do her own thing. She doesn't think she can find a middle ground.

I hit each of her concerns.

1. I told her that I am me. I am improving. I am now in control of my life. I am happier than I've felt before and that isn't changing. I commented on how my changes have obviously made her more interested in sex. (Couldn't help but get a smile from her there)
2. Boys are boys, girls are girls. We are growing and changing every day. This is not a concern for me at all.
3. I mentioned she doesn't really have much for hobbies. That's not my fault. I will encourage and motivate once I see her doing something. As for working out, I'm not going to nag her to go to the gym. Once she starts going again I'll very much encourage and offered to start going with her "on occasion." (For the record, I'm 4-5 days in the gym since starting RP and very consistent and showing many gains)
4. A requirement of my relationship is that she opens herself up and is vulnerable.

I ended it with "We need to think about this relationship very seriously. If you are unhappy with things then we really need to consider both sides of the coin. Even if divorce/split is one of those. No matter how much it might hurt to think about it."

Could see some tears coming up and at this point she had plans to go with her sister/nephew to something.

Came home that night and she seemed happy but her face was puffy. As she was cooking dinner I kept hearing sniffling. Told her to come here. Held her tight. That was all it took for her to start bawling on my shoulder. Took her to bed. Didn't say anything. Just held her tight as the tears stopped and she cuddled. 30 minutes later we had the best sex I've honestly ever had in my life. Full on caveman. Heard her make noises I've never heard before. For the first time that I can remember it seemed that she let herself go. Just gave into the feelings/the feels. This morning she text me "Sex was so good last night, you literally brought me to tears in a good way. I can't stop thinking about it."

I know it was long. Thanks for hanging in there.

So I "think" this was my main event. Will continue. Will stay strong.

Thoughts; suggestions, comments are very much welcome. Please and thank you!