I started on here about a year ago. I have read the prerequisites and Red Pill 101. I lift 1-2 times a week and run. Body fat is below 20%, so I still have a ways to go, but my weight is down to what it was after boot camp so not bad. Wife and I are mid-40s.

My wife is treating me well. Offers massages once a week, follows my lead on most things, doesn't really shit test anymore. Follows my budget and is in decent physical shape.

I am writing this in hopes some may have helpful insight on where I seem to be stuck. We have 3 teen kids who stay up about as late as we do. My wife is freaked out that they may hear us during sex if they are home, and we only have the house to ourselves about once every 2 weeks. If I initiate when they are home sex is bad. When they are out of the house sex isn't bad, but it isn't great. We have always had ebs and flows in our sex life but lately it has mainly been dull.

All this has led to a dull anger in me. I have an extreme commute, the jobs where I work pay about 25% more than where I live, and I am loathe to move my kids in their teens. I have considered just getting an apartment close to where I work so I can at least have enough privacy to fap 2-3 days a week, and time saved on the commute could be used to rest/work out/read. I worry that it would just chill the marriage further though and that isn't what I really want.

Sorry but I don't have a specific question but as I said, any insight would be greatly appreciated.