Unplugging and Reborn: checking in

BluepillProfessor · 2016-04-24T22:32:04+00:00

My wife is 39 weeks pregnant

Why do they ALWAYS put this in the very middle of the post in the very middle of a paragraph in the post. Seriously, this is some weird programmed reaction we are seeing with men of pregnazoids posting.

speaks to the still existing problem with our sex life.

You have read one book. The better question is how much has your max bench increased since you unplugged?

I stop. I get out of bed, put my clothes on and leave without saying a word.

Did you just ignore the bolded ALL CAPS warning printed at least TWO times in my Dread Post?

There is going to be no such thing as bad sex anymore. If one of us isn't loving it, I stop.

I love the frame and sentiment. I love the recovery and passing the comfort test (after leaving butthurt following a bad sex encounter the night before owing to her hugely pregnant belly). I love the leadership. I don't like the power switch. Sometimes you just have to fuck your way through bad sex. Like Bogey said, flip her over and pound her hard- just don't go to deep.

I know damn well she is not that attracted to me anymore but claims "I don't want anyone else but you. You are all I want.

Yes, that is a bitch. It is terribly painful to realize how unattractive you have been. It is embarrassing like you went through dinner with spaghetti on your face and nobody bothered to tell you- in fact they judged you because you didn't know. Women. Can't live with them.......

bogeyd6 · 2016-04-24T22:06:21+00:00

In a real sense. Did you try doggy style? It's really comfortable for her and while not exciting it will do in a pinch. She isn't attracted to you now but she is also pregnant and hyper gamy is on overload. She is really a ship in a storm and looking for any port.

Now let's deal with the she couldn't get comfortable so you stayed in her frame and failed to make sex pleasurable for yourself. That's your job. Yeah you failed it. My wife was hyper sexual when she was pregnant. You could have made it work but you let her control the experience and then came here to post about how it ended bad for you. Well champ. You failed. You have to realize that sexy fun times are your department now.

I'm glad you came here to post. I really put you in the list of flash in the pan. To see you come back is most heart warming. Treat this sub like a weekly meeting. The more you contribute the more you will get out of it.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-04-24T22:25:40+00:00

Flathatter45 · 2016-04-25T01:16:05+00:00

Sometimes, reading these posts, the similarities to my own situ are eerie. I'm in the same place, bro, except I have been unplugging for almost a year. Wife alternates between shit test volley fire for 2-3 days, outright disrespect, then silent hate for 2 weeks. Sometimes, the temptation to blow my stack at her is overwhelming. But each time I hold frame, it gets easier for me, and harder for her.

CinnaMagister · 2016-04-25T02:43:16+00:00

Like /u/bluepillprofessor said, I'd be careful applying the hard dread (leaving without a word, "laying down the law" about no more bad sex) when she is 39 weeks pregnant.

She gave you a comfort test and you think she's lying. How did you answer her?

fuzzyface1980 · 2016-04-25T06:10:09+00:00

Just had to go through this some months ago. Swallowed the pill while my wife was pregnant and deadbedroom. Darkest of days right there. I remember thinking; at least I’m not the suicidal type. Don’t know if that made it better or worse.

Try to get it in your head; you are there for both your baby and your wife. Don’t act like a big shot. Don’t be weak. Suck it up, appear as emotionally stable as possible. You cannot fucking dread your wife while she is pregnant. Just fucking take it. Then take it out on weight lifting. Stop making grand statements that give her the authority in your relationship. You are too new and you are letting your emotions guide your logic. Take the pain.

PM if you need guidance. Mind is still very fresh on those days.

MgFeSi · 2016-04-25T16:04:04+00:00

"There is going to be no such thing as bad sex anymore. If one of us isn't loving it, I stop." She didn't say a word. She consented. Small, but a big step.

Three-and-a-half things.

You've given her a massive loophole. Yes, you are being nice and comforting, but you also are handing over the power. All she has to do is act disinterested or uncomfortable, and she'll expect you to hard stop. Walking away from starfish is not the same thing as telling her, "if you don't love it I'll stop."
Now that you've said it, it's all on you. You have presented yourself with the great challenge. The wife has to be "loving it" for you to continue. Well, guess how she's going to love it? (PS Good luck figuring it out, because it's not going to be "Well, I rocked her world last time, so surely she'll be up for it again." You better realize that you have elevated the natural needs of a married relationship into a subjective arrangement based on your performance (oh yeah, and her hamster). You up for the challenge?
Figure out how this is going to work. You don't have much time if she's already 39 weeks. Start here and then do some more research.

Sex for us is essential. Every time I go into it, I give it my all. But great sex is not the only kind of sex. There are times when I'm a stallion, other times I'm not. There's times when she's a total freak, other times not so much. So, sex is mandatory. Great sex is the goal, but I'm not about to punt on decent sex by establishing a phony standard, i.e. loving it. This is about trust as much as it is lust. If most of us had to wait for our wife to "feel" like it, we'd be in a maddening routine like the dog anxiously waiting for the mailman to show up so he can start barking.

zezozio · 2016-04-24T22:07:46+00:00

Too many "her/she" and not enough "I/me" in your text. The baby + "not attracted" will give you 2-3 years "buffer" and to turn things around.

Plus you gave her the right to deny you sex anytime she don't "feel like it". Not sure it's the best of ideas.

I'm reading "no more mr nice guy" these days... tremendous help. Fucking hard truths shoved into our throats but... truths nonetheless.

Title	Unplugging and Reborn: checking in
Author	coltspaw
Upvotes	8
Comments	14
Date	April 24, 2016 9:13 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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