As a 32yo finding out I'm a highly sensitive male, growing up with the unspoken rule of "Showing emotion = weakness" caused so much emotional suppression and damage.

orei_noodles · 2021-09-29T18:57:37+00:00

Geez. This hits home for me. I didn’t realize I was angry all the time until I was 34. I didn’t know o suffered from anxiety any time there was a change on my routine. I didn’t know what these emotions were. I couldn’t put a name to them for the longest time. Now that I know, I’ve been able to regulate my emotions in a much healthier fashion. I’m glad you found your way man! Men are just as emotional as women, it’s ok, even healthy, to let yourself feel

a-man-from-earth · 2021-09-29T21:42:57+00:00

At least you've found what is going on with yourself. It's the first step. Here's to hoping you'll find more people who will support you!

LettuceBeGrateful · 2021-09-30T09:16:17+00:00

I am possibly HSP and have struggled with a lot of the stuff you mention. It gets easier with practice, I promise!

Acta_Tabula · 2021-09-29T23:40:35+00:00

I feel you, brother. I too was dealing with depression at a young age. I too was told by my parents that as a man, one shouldn't cry or show emotions. But, it's totally okay for you to show your emotions. We humans aren't robots after all. If you need someone to vent your frustration, you can let me know through dms.

Reddit1984Censorship · 2021-09-30T13:59:48+00:00

In my opinion is very important to also understand that we men naturally are weaker in the emotional realm by nature.
Emotions flow slower though us because we didnt evolve to be in an emotional enviroment constantly like the modern enviroment has become.
And even psychology professionals deny or ignore this because it might be politicaly incorrect but in my experience understanding this was crucial to come to terms with my own emotions as a man, i was trying to keep up emotionally with woman and tha tonly lead to failure after failure.
So dont expect society to understand what you are going through because at the moment society is not concerned and doesnt look into male emotions so the knowlodge is not out there is within you.

BrokeMacMountain · 2021-10-05T10:33:22+00:00

I am sorry to hear what you had to suffer through. Just know, you are not alone. Many of us, myself included, have suffered the same way, and fallen in to the same dark places as yourself.

Trying to correct the past or explore it for answers will drive you mad, and keep you down. The only way out I found was to look forward, with all my scars from past battles, and try to find some peace. For me, I am starting a business, and looking to forward to building a small house next year. Just me, in my own little place. safe, and content. It may jot be much, but its my dream, my sanctum.

Title	As a 32yo finding out I'm a highly sensitive male, growing up with the unspoken rule of "Showing emotion = weakness" caused so much emotional suppression and damage.
Author	Paco9897
Upvotes	24
Comments	6
Date	September 29, 2021 6:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MenSupportMen
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