Getting more lonelier as I get older

UnHope20 · 2022-11-24T17:16:41+00:00

Sorry this happened man. I want to validate your feelings. But I also want to encourage you to not lose hope in people. At 27 there is an entire life ahead of you and making connections with others can happen at a moments notice. In the meantime, we are happy to have you here bruh.

BlackoutWalksAlone · 2022-11-24T16:38:05+00:00

It is hard to connect to others period because most people are flat out untrustworthy to some level. Even though I know all of us need some kind of human contact, it can be hard to connect with someone. Harder to keep them around if you're suffering from mental illness, disability, addiction, etc. Most people would rather be around someone who is more "normal" and stable. I do suffer from issues with self esteem and negative self talk daily. You can hear yourself saying "I'm a lost cause" all the time or a lot of the time. So for other people to reinforce that idea, just solidifies the idea that you're worthless, helpless and hopeless. There are many guys out there especially who are alone and unloved (it goes for both genders but guys especially suffer from social isolation). I wish there was a place where outsiders, who don't fit in anywhere, can come together to talk and connect. But it isn't that simple. Because of trust issues (whatever issues that are lying underneath) and that disconnect which makes it really hard to connect to anyone even if you wanted to. You are just stuck in this dark, scary void alone. It is something that I deal with practically every day and I'm thinking I may not be the only one who suffers from being stuck in a void alone. Unfortunately, just because we suffer the same problems, it doesn't mean it guarantees a connection. To people who can truly understand us and like us and love us unconditionally. That is REALLY hard to find.

Andreomgangen · 2022-11-24T22:16:28+00:00

Going by nothing except what you wrote, so take what I write with a good dose of salt.

You write that he said you're a lost case, is it perhaps the case that you have been struggling for a while ? Having a friend that struggles can be extremely taxing. If so It might be self preservation that caused him to take a step back.

It's a sad reality that the 'depressed' end up loosing the connections they need the most because they are hard to be friends with. Especially because depression/struggling often makes the person unable to empathize with how their behaviour taxes others, as all focus is turned inwards.

If you consider this and find there is some truth to that then the first step for reconciliation can be for you to acknowledge that to him. If it's the case but beyond reconciliation I would advise you to focus on something else. Find a hobby, anything where there are people meeting to enjoy an activity together. For all of social medias faults it is also a very good platform to find such groups.

Latter_Adagio8945 · 2022-11-24T19:58:41+00:00

Sorry that happened man. You’re still young. Reinvent yourself and push through!

Arguesovereverythin · 2022-11-24T22:31:45+00:00

There aren't really enough details to say this for sure, but it sounds to me like your friend might be suffering from depression.

Think really, really hard. If you can't think of a reason why your friend is mad at you, then maybe it's not you. Maybe you need to keep after him. Give him some space, but don't give up.

Title	Getting more lonelier as I get older
Author	Low-Whereas8182
Upvotes	35
Comments	11
Date	November 24, 2022 3:46 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MenSupportMen
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