Lonely but happier

DrawerEither9136 · 2023-03-16T13:56:15+00:00

I recently got out of relationship and it devastated me.

Im happy for you man, this is only way in these modern times, as a man.

Focus on something you like. Cheers.

uniptf · 2023-03-16T22:05:16+00:00

It is definitely and absolutely better, and can make you happier, to be alone, rather than in an unhappy relationship.

Lonely is not such a great thing, and long term, it isn't good for mental health or even our physical health.

Being alone - as in not in a paired relationship - isn't bad in any way, but it doesn't have to leave you lonely, and you shouldn't live life lonely.

Just find connections other than a pair-bonded, committed, exclusive relationship.

Good luck, man.

Edit: added unhappy

BlackoutWalksAlone · 2023-03-25T23:04:30+00:00

This is kinda where I am. And I can see many men face the same problem since it can be REALLY hard to have a relationship or be friends with anyone. I teeter back and forth from being stuck in a crappy friendship (with my feminist friend) or just accepting that maybe I might be better off alone the rest of my life. I've tried time and time to connect to others and no matter what I did, it just never worked out for me. Eventually, putting yourself out there just becomes exhausting and a chores and in the case of my "friend" and my mother, it causes immense strain, anger and depression. I do have a distrust when it comes down to other humans as they can't really be trusted that much. The best possible thing I guess is to just find a hobby you like and that can help distract you from the loneliness for 5 seconds before you inevitably dive back into it. Sadly, that's just the way it is for a lot of us, me included. I wish I could connect to someone but idk if it's worth going through the heartache, the headache and the strain just to be able to be around someone else. 😔

Title	Lonely but happier
Author	kiadragon
Upvotes	19
Comments	4
Date	March 16, 2023 12:38 PM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit	/r/MenSupportMen
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