Support thread for u/RudeTechnician587

RudeTechnician587 · 2024-06-06T10:47:26+00:00

Wow, waking up to this notification on my phone felt very heartwarming. Thank you so much for doing this! I read the comments on best of Reddit updates post and realized that the subreddit I posted on was in fact being rather dismissive and just unnecessarily harsh. I think I’ll avoid posting on there ever again.

As for reporting my father, there’s not much that I could do. He’s a very high rank in the military and he’s got infinite connections that basically mean he can get away with quite a lot. I also don’t want to report him because honestly I just don’t want to ruin my relationship with my family. I’ve got a good mother, good siblings and I don’t want to cut them all off just because of my dad.

He’s harsh, but he can come around sometimes I suppose. At the same time, one of the many reasons I’ve moved to the UK to study is because of him. I’m hoping that once I graduate, I can find a job and stand on my own feet. That way I can distant myself from him without having to cut them off.

At the same time I’ll be able to visit India as often as I want and meet the rest of my family too.

Thanks for reaching out again, it really has brightened up my day. Fingers crossed everything works out in the end 🤞.

kenbrucedmr · 2024-06-06T07:45:13+00:00

If we take what he wrote at face value, I can't see how he did anything wrong. Anybody who thinks someone is "selfish" for not having time for their romantic partner in 3 weeks while studying, has never studied something difficult. I can only guess that the need to focus and exert yourself for more than a short while is just foreign to them. Of course, I won't even mention knowing about putting all your hopes in studying in a prestigious place abroad, and with the additional pressure of the father.

I don't think "Celine" is at fault either. Though I'd hope she'd be more understanding, she has the right to seek somebody with more time, if that's what she needs. That's completely fair.

Same with the final situation with his friend. u/RudeTechnician587 did nothing wrong at all. His friend, maybe? I agree her behavior is a bit weird, but it's hard to tell without more context. Of course, if you are the girlfriend and see him in her bed, it's logical to think he was cheating (not so logical, since he did call her before, but within reason).

Basically, the whole thing seems like bad luck, and maybe just incompatibility of characters/needs. I don't think our guy have been an ass, or a bad boyfriend at all.

His only mistake so far seems to be posting to that sub, which seems to be full of judgmental people (and judgmental about things they don't understand, at that). I'd just avoid the sub in the future and post to one of the several more supportive ones around.

u/RudeTechnician587 : I'm sorry you are dealing with so much. Including your father. I understand he wants the best for you, and is terrified of you not living to your full potential, but that's a really bad way to go about it.

I can only say, I hope the studies are going better, and I hope, after all this drama is over, you can just focus on that.

I wish you all the best.

Affectionate-Sock-62 · 2024-06-06T13:43:32+00:00

Hmmmm understandably his focus was on the issue about his relationship, but I’d save my comments until the guy asks for some support. This seems unsolicited.

Title	Support thread for u/RudeTechnician587
Author	ManWithTwoShadows
Upvotes	23
Comments	7
Date	June 6, 2024 5:57 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MenSupportMen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/mensupportmen/comments/1d9b6vs/support_thread_for_urudetechnician587/
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