The past is a struggle

Arguesovereverythin · 2021-08-15T04:29:28+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear about what you're going through. I haven't been in the same situation, but I know how hopeless it feels when you realize how your past contributed to so many mistakes in previous relationships. It sounds like you were able love someone despite all of those challenges and I'm really happy for what you have accomplished.

Question - do you have a professional support system that works for you? Think of it this way: What happened to you as a child fucked you up pretty bad. Getting those men out of your life stops you from getting injured again, but that doesn't mean your trauma will heal on it's own. Family and friends will rarely have the expertise to set the broken bones that abuse can cause. In your case, you may not have had appropriate treatment right away. Maybe things didn't heal properly? You need a specialist that can individually tailor a plan to help you fully recover.

What do you think about setting up some time with a therapist or counselor?

a-man-from-earth · 2021-08-15T03:06:11+00:00

You were a kid. This stuff is complicated. Have you considered seeing a therapist?

MrElderwood · 2021-08-15T15:22:58+00:00

May I tentatively suggest that you read a little on cPTSD? The 'c' stands for 'complex' and is a trauma based problem that, more often than not, is based in childhood. It is distinct from PTSD.

Although my childhood experiences involved abuse, it was not sexual. My heart goes out to you on that score. However, reading about cPTSD made so much sense to me in terms of symptoms and the effect it has had on my life - which has been frankly crippling, for 39 years.

Labels 'can' sometimes be useful, if the are used positively, like to assist diagnosis. Here's where I started my reading, I hope you get some relief from the knowledge, friend. If it's not appropriate to you, then at least it's something you can rule out.

https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/what-is-cptsd

Naboo_the_enigma · 2021-08-15T09:35:24+00:00

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Title	The past is a struggle
Author	Ilargi_Urdina
Upvotes	21
Comments	10
Date	August 15, 2021 1:29 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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