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Weekend check-in

January 21, 2022
15 upvotes

How are you guys doing? Remember that we're all human, and it's okay not to feel okay. Some days are better than others...

Please feel free to share what is bothering you, or what you do to feel better.

Please have a look at our current event and consider participating.

I wish you all a good weekend!

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Title Weekend check-in
Author mensupportmenmod
Upvotes 15
Comments 11
Date January 21, 2022 4:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/MenSupportMen
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MenSupportMen/weekend-check-in.1098379
https://theredarchive.com/post/1098379
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/mensupportmen/comments/s9dza2/weekend_checkin/
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[–]leelbeach 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

So scared for my future. Suck at my job/career, not really good at anything and I'm lonely as fuck. I would love to have a girlfriend (even just a fwb).

[–]a-man-from-earth 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Is there a possibility for training into a skill, so you would have better prospects?

[–]leelbeach 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Probably but I wouldn't even know what to do. If I can get good at my current job it is a good/decent career. I just feel like when I've looked back at every job I've had, I've sucked at it. Been working for 8 years now.

[–]hamarr47 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I'm less stable recently, but it seems like I am identifying triggers and what not more easily. I mostly am struggling with regret now. Regret that I got to my age without really healing or doing enough to take ownership of my life. Thinking about missing out on the possibility of having a family of my own and stuff is getting to me more lately. Well, not having my stuff together for my age. No investments, career that might be ending soon in a layoff, etc.

There are folks who get out of prison and put together their lives within a few years. It's hard to get out of this idea that I am utterly helpless or incapable.

[–]hamarr47 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I tried to hang myself tonight with a cheap rope. I was trying short drop suspension. I didn’t start to black out at all but a sort of disturbing peace came over me confirming that I have nothing to live for. I don’t want to be here anymore.

[–]a-man-from-earth 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm sorry to hear that. Life can be hard and hopeless. I've been there. Luckily I didn't go thru with ending it, because now it is so much better.

Do you have someone you can talk to, or do you want to share more of your troubles here?

[–]hamarr47 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’m not sure. I think the problem is I keep talking to people but I don’r know if there is a solution and maybe I am partly grieving that. I feel a little better this morning other than the swollen tongue.

[–]a-man-from-earth 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don’r know if there is a solution and maybe I am partly grieving that.

When you're in that spot, it's hard to see any light. It will take time to see that again. But most people can eventually overcome this and find a solution. I did, tho it took me a while.

Certain things will be beyond your grasp to change, and you need to learn to accept that. Other things are within your power, so consider what you can do to improve your situation. Can you learn new skills, pick up new activities, make new friends, maybe move to a different place?

I would recommend connecting more with nature, by taking walks in a park, or hiking, or taking care of some plants or a pet. Maybe volunteer at an animal shelter or soup kitchen. Such activities will bring some positive energy into your life.

[–]UnHope20 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Depression has been hitting me pretty hard. Seriously feel that there's no point in continuing.

I'm going to keep fighting because I know it will pass. But I'm giving less and less of a damn.

[–]a-man-from-earth 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I've been at that point too, tho it's a long time ago now. Just keep going on. Who knows what may happen?

And when you stop giving a damn, I have found that that comes with a sense of freedom. You can plot your own course, set your own goals, pursue your own wants, without following other people's expectations.

And if you need to vent, you know I'm here.

[–]UnHope20 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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