Black guy here asking men a serious question

SweatyAdvance · 2021-07-29T22:14:44+00:00

Your question is very vague and hard to understand. Can you elaborate?

DavidByron2 · 2021-07-30T16:52:11+00:00

Absolutely. Men get coerced by women all the time. If you're in a relationship and she wants sex and you don't right then she's probably not going to take no for an answer because women are taught "men only want one thing". They're taught not to care about boundaries for men and are likely to see refusal as evidence of the man being disinterested in her, or cheating and therefore forcing sex is a way to test for infidelity.

It happens a lot in DV situations where paranoia over sexual fidelity of the non-violent male partner is common.

Since men would be far more reluctant to think of this sort of coercion as rape, it's probably massively under reported even in the survey that reported men get raped as often as women do.

Xx24reminder · 2021-07-30T16:40:31+00:00

How would you describe coercion?

billsull_02842 · 2021-07-29T22:26:58+00:00

they coerce the money out of your pockets.

frjoethesecond · 2021-07-30T00:46:53+00:00

What has skin colour got to do with any of this?

imjusthereforresearc · 2021-07-30T00:37:22+00:00

Everything about this is confusing.

Past-Difficulty6785 · 2021-07-29T22:36:02+00:00

Which situations are we talking about? Are we talking about sex, divorce, getting on a bus...?

Women may have coerced you, I have no idea. You'll need to provide some examples. I would hazard a guess that men do more coercing than women (successfully) simply by dint of their lack of fear of women most situations. Physically, it's very unusual for a grown man to be in any way intimidated by a woman. The reverse scenario is far more common. But again, this all depends on what you mean and what situations we're talking about here.

AcidKritana · 2021-07-30T19:43:44+00:00

Yes, but some coercions are worse

catsinbananahats · 2021-07-29T22:21:41+00:00

Absolutely. If you felt pressured into sex or reproduction or had sex with someone under one condition only to find out they lied to you, it can be considered forced sex aka rape.

List of situations that are rape by coercion.

•You agree to have sex only under the condition that they not have an STD and they lie and say they don't have one when they do and then you have sex.

•You agree to have sex with protection, and they take off the condom/poke holes or say they are taking birth control when they are not

•You tell them you don't want to have sex, but they threaten to kill themselves or say something else that is emotionally abusive and you give in to appease them.

Title	Black guy here asking men a serious question
Author	Slim9canada
Upvotes	24
Comments	46
Date	July 29, 2021 10:08 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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