Just my own personal take.

I think that men spend the majority of their lives building toward a future of their own design. We don't know exactly what it will be like, who we will be, or who we will share it with. It's an unknown question.

Many of us do so without emotional support from family or friends. Many of us do so with sparse times of female companionship and often times no love or affection at all.

We really don't know where we are going or how to get there just that we have to in some way build the power and integrity that will give us the peace of mind that we are complete and whole.

For both traditional and modern women this is not the case whatsoever. Both instances of women are simply passengers in the future toward what man they will choose. They are like receptive children, thinking they are flowers to be plucked out of the garden and given everything.

A massive caveat - many women have passions and goals they pursue to find meaning in their own lives. They face the true hardship of failure, of consequence and loss, and these are what I would consider mature women. Women who learn from their mistakes and become more sober toward reality and suffering. Who can empathize with the suffering of others not even just because they have learned to take accountability, which although important is just a beginning point, but because they have worked hard to develop something of true value that resonates with them - something men have to do in order to be successful in life and with women.

These women are worth loving and respecting because they are capable of actual honest empathy and I'm blessed to know a few in my life.

We can talk about garbage men at a different time, because there are garbage men and garbage women out there. (I don't mean the civil servants though respect to them).

Women don't have the requirement to pursue their passions the same way. They are blessed with the privilege of being receptive to male interference. They often resent unwanted interference and welcome interference that suits them. This is in part why the majority of women are unaccountable, blame men for their problems, and are basically adult children in their psychological state.

As a man I ask myself how I can respect such a person and the most I can do is respect their autonomy and right to exist. On a personal level how can you respect someone who has no roots? Who doesn't understand the depth of what "action" even is?

In a very real way how can you trust someone who hasn't dug down and built their own life satisfaction from nothing except the world infront of them. From the pit of their own loneliness and suffering as men must do.

This is why the average modern woman becomes more and more discontent. They often lie to themselves saying they don't expect anything from men yet in action they date the men that cater to them the most without challenging them. If a man challenges them they will retreat because they are not only unequipped to hold any respectful position but because they also realize that their behaviour doesn't have to be held accountable - how dare some GUY say something like that when I have someone else here ready to "love me" and "treat me like I deserve". Accountability and self growth feels like suffering which is something modern women believe they shouldn't have to experience and men should fix for them.

So in part modern women have no motivation to grow and every reason to remain childish. You simply can't trust a person like this.

This is where a lot of MRA advice sources make a mistake imo. They say relationships are transactional at their base and I don't believe this is actually true even though things are exchanged. I think transaction in love and life is ideally a consequence of good health. I would say that two people of equal value who are self assured and self individuated are the only ones capable of an equal relationship.

Treating a relationship as transactional and an exchange of service and resources I personally feel is just too much of a top down approach. Infact, I think that reinforces female narcissism and entitlement. They still aren't forced to grow at all. This in part I think is why men often talk about wanting submissive women for partners but also can't seem to get around the fact that such a relationship is going to get boring.

But why is this so hard for men to find a person like this? As men, deep down we all understand this to be the truth since we are forced to build ourselves to become successful and whole. So we know that two people should be able to be equally engaged in a relationship because they want to be, not because we are both "getting something" from it. There's a huge difference and when modern women say "I don't need a man I just want one", they are theoretically correct but far from the actual truth due to their own deeply rooted entitlement and neediness.

An actual, mature woman who has fought through her own challenges without being rescued by men or falling in to toxic beliefs to justify her own behavior is incredibly hard to find and that's because few women are motivated enough to fight tooth and nail for their own life without relying on men in the process. Men on the other hand, have to learn to stand on their own in a very real sense, not a superficial "I have a job" way.

The majority of women out there who say they are strong and independent are delusional and have no idea what hardship is. Until that changes rare exceptions will be desirable and the rest will remain as they have been - continuing to demand that they be treated as prostitutes who greatly over estimate their own market value.