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Even when he offered multiple suitible alternatives for childcare, all of which his wife refused, the only acceptable solution in her mind is he has to boycott his cousins wedding because how dare they have a child free wedding

Late-Hat-9144

August 4, 2026

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Title	Even when he offered multiple suitible alternatives for childcare, all of which his wife refused, the only acceptable solution in her mind is he has to boycott his cousins wedding because how dare they have a child free wedding
Author	Late-Hat-9144
Upvotes	82
Comments	19
Date	August 4, 2026 4:13 AM UTC (2 weeks ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1vezt8g/even_when_he_offered_multiple_suitible/
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[–]Charybd1ss 13 points14 points15 points 2 weeks ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]Late-Hat-9144[S] 17 points18 points19 points 2 weeks ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Yup. OOP has sugg3sted the following;

they go to the destination as a family, get a babysitter to care for the kids while they both go to the wedding. ❌️
they go to the destination together, she could stay with the kids at the hotel while he sttend the wedding seeing as she doesnt want to go to the wedding, that way he's only away for a few short hours and not a couple of days. ❌️
she stays home with their kids and he hires a babysitter/mommy helper for the weekend ❌️

It seems she has a history of refusing to go to weddings which are child free, it sesma less about her truly being overwhelmed (in which case any of the provided options would have resolved it), and more about she's decided to "take a stand" against people who have child free weddings and is being controlling and manipulative to pressure OOP into doing the same when he disagrees with her about it.

[–]Charybd1ss 2 points3 points4 points 2 weeks ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Cassio 0 points1 point2 points 2 weeks ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Naw

They have a history of a baby this past year which ist breastfed. And a toddler before that. Anyone with little kids should see the conundrum.

I'll share my thoughts why I believe those are no options for her.

(1) The youngest still takes breastmilk. If they were to go the wife would have to pump and dump during the wedding celebration. The baby would get subpar care. The baby might cry all through those days because it - until that point - never experienced being separated from the parents. This would be perfect to instill abandonment anxiety in both kids.

(2) Have you traveled with kids? One of them a toddler the other a baby? In a hotel noone has the means to properly take care of two wound up kids after a few hours of travel. After the wedding celebration the husband won't be of any help either - he'll be too tired himself.

(3) The only reason I could see why the wife refuses this option is that she has high needs and/or clingy kids who do not take to strangers. Or she herself - being neurodivergent - cannot have strangers in the house. This is actually more common than you might think.

So they can all be reasonable arguments, but OP is not presenting them, so I am just guessing at the most common reasons why she might refuse.

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