Feministing's irresponsible rape post

Fractella · 2010-06-06T20:23:38+00:00

If this Ann person really cared about rape, then why does she not even mention that 4.8% of young men really didn't want their first encounter to happen? Sure, not as many young men felt that way as young women did....but so what? Apparently, she only has a problem with "rape" (I put that in quotes because I don't agree with her conclusion that those girls were all raped) if it happens to a girl. Disgusting.

SquirrelyJoe · 2010-06-06T21:23:56+00:00

The thing that really gets me (about the original feministing article) is the idea that young girls are learning from this that "not really wanting to" is the same as rape. That only waters down actual rapes and invalidates true victims.

When I went through school, rape was defined as the perpetrator forcing sex on someone even after the victim specifically said no. When did the definitions change to this greyscale "Well she didn't really want to but did anyway, therefore she was raped." Shit, not every sexual encounter I've had has been 100% good times, but I never felt raped because of it.

I wish more energy were being put into teaching girls how to say no assertively and clearly, and less effort put into teaching them a victim mentality.

InfinitelyThirsting · 2010-06-06T18:15:42+00:00

Seriously. Yes, it sucks if girls are pressured specifically by their boyfriends to have sex when they don't want to, but if they don't speak their discomfort, how is the boy supposed to know? If we didn't have such a culture of shame about female sexuality (which is as much the fault of other judgmental women as it has ever been the fault of men), we wouldn't have girls who said no when they really did mean yes, and then there wouldn't be confusion. Because much as people hate to admit it, it is "No means no, except when it doesn't." And teen boys are not experienced enough to know the difference, no more than teen girls know the difference between love and manipulation.

Godspiral · 2010-06-06T18:27:46+00:00

Frivolous rape claims are as bad as intentionally false rape claims. The police fill in the details in frivolous claims to satisfy persecutory politics that fit feminist hatemonger agenda. Its hate speech, even if its politically correct and fashionable.

Women make frivolous abuse claims because feminists exaggerate the problem. They are doing it to save other women, because they are told other women need saving, and aren't comming forward.

You probably have regrets regarding your first car purchasing experience. Interest rate, insurance costs, price, and the salesperson that convinced you to accept it. Political groups can prey on exploiting resent, but the social consequences can be severe and undesirable if people actually want cars.

kanuk876 · 2010-06-07T06:41:00+00:00

FTA:

one erroneous assertion cascades atop the next until they collapse upon one another to form a sort of Rorschach inkblot of unmistakable misandry.

My new favorite quote of the day.

Edit:

The fact that feminists are not at all troubled by the implications of "Ann's" post -- due process be damned! -- tells us all we need to know about their notions of gender equity.

My new second-favorite quote of the day.

dagbrown · 2010-06-07T01:34:56+00:00

I once ate some food that looked good, but it turned out not to taste quite so nice.

WAS I CHEF-RAPED?!?!?!

Title	Feministing's irresponsible rape post
Author	PierceHarlan
Upvotes	32
Comments	8
Date	June 6, 2010 4:32 PM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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