So, I live in what is considered to be one of the most equal countries in the world, yet I find I absurd that feminists claim everything is bad when they aren't working on trying to come up with a solution. They complain about everything unless it's a field where women are superior.

Instead of fighting for actual equality, they claim everything is a problem caused by men. When a man speak up for them, they tell him to be quiet and let women's voices be heard instead of his, even if he has a valid point which is profitable for them.

I see a lot of "girl power", "pussy power", "male tears" etc. slogans everywhere, and I find this annoying as this doesn't cause equality but rather women superiority. This wouldn't have been ok the other way around.

I also hear a lot about male violence against women and how this isn't ok. I agree. But I know for a fact that the other way around always makes the female aggressor a "strong independent woman".

I acknowledge that the pay gap between genders is an issue, but I know for a fact that this not mainly caused by male superiority, but rather a lack of arguments during interviews, also for some reason, a lot of women choose less well payed jobs, like this would be a job "expected" of them, which is complete bullshit.

For instance, a proposition has been made (thankfully not implemented) to give women a college education in IT, without having to pay for the education.

Another example is that a woman can get an IT-related job without having the same experience as her male coworkers. I've seen this multiple times. Yet, somehow, IT is not "interesting" as a career to a majority of women, as this is considered "manly" or "nerdy".

I also think that their way of objectifying themselves is pathetic, as the same women objectify men in either demeaning or sexist ways all the time.

"Women only" cinemas, programming groups, pubs, meetings, public rooms, etc. is idiotic. This will NEVER be allowed the other way around, even if it's also profitable for both women and men.

I need your help arguing against the slogans I described in the beginning, as this is considered normal and good in my social network. For instance, my girlfriend, the mother of our two boys, think that men shouldn't use physical force on women, but the other way around is ok since the woman is usually weaker. She says we have to teach them about how men should respect women, yet she can't acknowledge the fact that boys suffer as much but in a slightly different manner. Her friends are feminists with slogan-labeled clothes that piss me off. One of them were "almost raped" due to the fact that she can't say no to people who want to sleep with her.

I mean. Come on! They too have to consider that not everything is bad and non-profitable for them. They have to acknowledge the fact that men suffer, but the difference is that, at least when I grew up, I was taught to ignore it and not to show my feelings, while the girls were allowed and acknowledged as long as they did.

Please share a few good and not too long arguments which will help me in discussions with my family and closest friends.