How Women Train Men To Rape

iamdamagedgoods · 2014-01-24T06:03:56+00:00

in my favourite book, there's a part where the main character is being talked to by his father: "you can't be too careful these days [...] if she says no, then you have to assume she means it ... because if you force her to do something she doesn't want to do, then you're in big trouble, mister ... and even if she says no, and really means yes, then quite frankly she's playing games and isn't worth the price of dinner."

It's a pretty good policy, I think. in the article the author talks about a woman essentially belittling him for not wanting to take away her consent, when it would probably be the best idea to just not be with someone like that.

SJW_Scum · 2014-01-24T16:48:02+00:00

Hate that this is a RoK post but it does point out a valid issue, one I've even personally experienced dating.

Does no mean no or does no mean "I want to resist you a little and get you frustrated so you succumb to desire and overpower and utterly dominate me." Which is hot and is certainly a thing I am into—with consent. Both hers and mine. You need a safeword for it, because it's very easy to go beyond comfort for either partner.

Riktrat · 2014-01-25T13:54:10+00:00

"Consensual Non-Consensual" is the best description for this kind of rape fantasy. Lots of women have tho kind of desire and its a ball to indulge in with ones partner. But the levels of trust it requires is well beyond a quick chat and a rundown of kinks.

Great advice in the column though. He handled the situation like a pro and even remembered to not stick his dick in crazy (a second time nobody's perfect).

AmbitiousApe · 2014-01-26T19:59:02+00:00

I've had a couple of girlfriends who liked to play rape. That was back in the day before "rape culture" and campus rape hysteria took over, so I wasn't in the same danger that a young man would be today. Nevertheless, it was still a major mindfuck.

This article is helpful in describing how to communicate about such sexual desires and practices.

Title	How Women Train Men To Rape
Author	deruku
Upvotes	6
Comments	4
Date	January 24, 2014 4:36 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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