You've most likely seen this silencing tactic before: you point out a double standard, an injustice against men, a violation of boys' rights, etc., and then the usual feminist shows up saying something like:

"If you care so much about it, go protest, just like we did when we fought for our rights."

"Have you started an organization to help men yet? Go protest. If you see an injustice, do something about it."

"Do it yourselves. We fought for our rights. If men care so much, then men should protest."

These kinds of feminist comments even appear when the discussion is about the rights of defenseless baby boys. The intention is clear: to silence, to strip an injustice of its status as an injustice, and make it seem like something fair. Injustice is turned into meritocracy: "I have rights because I worked for them, and you don't because you're lazy." So if you're suffering, it's because you deserve it. It's not an injustice, it's not sexism, it's simply the consequence of not putting in enough effort.

In this way, the problem is shifted. The problem is no longer a sexist society that systematically inflicts violence against men; instead, the problem is said to lie with men themselves, who supposedly don't make the effort that women do.

This also relies on a straw man fallacy, by assuming that people are asking women to "protest on behalf of men," when in reality no one asked women specifically to do anything. The demand is directed at society as a whole.

You're probably already familiar with the just-world fallacy, and that's exactly what this is about. Victim blaming: this is its most dangerous manifestation. It leads people to believe that if someone suffers a tragedy or abuse, they must have "done something to deserve it." Justification of inequality: it promotes the idea that success is solely the result of effort, while ignoring the impact of structural factors, social context, or plain luck.

But can you imagine if we did the same thing they do? For example, whenever there's progress in men's health and they respond by complaining about the lack of progress in endometriosis, what if we said: "Stop complaining and go protest. Get organized and hold demonstrations. Study medicine instead of social sciences if you care so much. Just as we men research men's health programs, you can do the same for women's health. Don't expect us to solve your problems for you. Have you started a foundation or anything to help with endometriosis yet?"

It sounds incredibly insensitive and cruel, doesn't it?