I was just thinking and I’ve really been trying to become a good listener. To be better.

I have learned a lot by listening to your posts, to the comments, to the replies. I know more then I did before and that is a blessing.

I’ve been listening to some of your perspectives on life, wise words about simple things. Something I just thought back on that made me want to post this was “men tend to go into a relationship thinking they will never change the women. Women go in expecting to change him” it kinda just hit me. I’ve only been in one relationship in my life and it was long distance. Looking back I realize I entered it thinking some things would change which was wrong of me. My dad might have been right that he was not good, but I also should have not entered the relationship being so self absorbed thinking I could change him in some ways.

I haven’t been on here for long, but I have see how men struggle, how much they struggle to approach women. How scary it is for them, constantly being rejected as if it is nothing. That must be hard.

I don't known what enthralled me to write this all of a sudden, but I just really appreciate the fact I can be here and talk about this stuff. I am a women which would probably make some weary of me, but almost all of you have given my good feedback and no judgment. I really appreciate it.

We are all human and trying to live our lives. It can be so hard when you see the world the way it is. I know I…am constantly worried about America…about the men and women.. Now I know it is not just America dealing with these men’s issues, it is other places too. I am always thinking about the people at my school how sad they look, how they look like they don’t want to be there. People don’t smile much anymore. I am always so worried about all the fighting between men and women, my parents say I feel things too deeply, my ex said that too. Maybe they are right, but still. They say I worry too much, it’s out of my hands. But…but what if it’s not…what if little old me can do something. I just…I hate seeing men and women like this…I really want us… To be there for each other. I am so tired of the fighting.

I have always struggled with loneliness, it was hard for others to understand the way I thought growing up. I confuse even my family, they think I am too soft then too hard then too soft again.

But I kinda feel like you guys get it, the whole damned if you do damned if you don’t. So thanks for being encouraging, thanks for cheering on my dreams.

Thanks for just being kind, it means a lot to me.