(In response to this article. http://everydayfeminism.com/2016/11/patriarchy-bad-for-men/ )

Can't believe this is still in the positive, so I'm going to go through every item on that list and point out how utterly and completely WRONG it is.

1: Reflectiveness

"A troubling aspect of upholding the norms of masculinity is that men don’t often put effort into questioning or reflecting on such norms, let alone how their own actions affect others."

Men aren't self aware? Maybe this writer isn't, but most of us understand cause and effect by the time we've learned not to shit our own pants, thanks.

"What many feminists advocate for is all people, especially men, being more reflective and introspective, and being more comfortable with being called out for things that others may have an issue with."

This is just saying that men should sit down and take whatever crazy shit people say is wrong about them.

"keeping up a persona of ultra-masculinity or machismo is something that not only make others uncomfortable, but can directly hurt those they love or care about the most."

Some men like to be masculine, some don't. It's a personality thing, and it isn't hurtful. Lets see how much you hate masculine men when war is declared or someone's life needs saving.

Competition

One obvious note, competition is what got us to the moon, it's whats made us the dominant species on this planet, and it isn't just a male trait. It is, quite literally, PART OF OUR DNA.

"Despite the many stereotypes of women being highly competitive with each other, feminism has evolved around the notion of community and solidarity"

Bullshit. My mom got flack from so called feminists for being a stay at home mom, even though THATS WHAT SHE WANTED TO DO. She wasn't pressured into it, she wanted to do it. She home schooled, she enjoys cooking and baking, and did she do more chores than my dad? Yeah, he was out busting his ass all day. Now that he's getting close to retiring, he's been telling my mom how he's going to take over cooking, since she's been doing it for so long. Doing your fair share when you aren't the one out making money isn't sexist, and I'd expect to do more house work if I didn't have a job and my wife was out working.

"Feminists are much more interested in creating a space that feels safe and comfortable for as many people as possible."

Really? Because this reads like the guilt trip from hell.

I think the above covers status quo, so lets move on to number 4 shall we?

Hierarchy

"Typically, men are paid more, men are offered jobs more often, men pay less for products, men aren’t subjected to constant catcalling or sexual violence, and are content with this and so much more staying the same. "

We are paid more due to the hours we work, and the jobs we do. Average that all out, the pay gap is about 1-2%, which can be explained by women usually not asking for raises. This is an issue, and women should feel free to ask for more money. If the huge wage gap thing were true, companies would only hire women for the savings alone.

"Unfortunately, women and non-binary folks usually don’t have those same options, and they’re forced to be uncomfortable, feel unsafe, or face violence on a daily basis."

If you face violence every day, you are either deciding to stay with someone who's abusive, or you are going out looking for fights. As for being uncomfortable, I can't think of a day I've not had an uncomfortable moment too, so that I'll just put under the category of "being human".

"While striving for equality and giving up power and hierarchy sounds scary for a lot men, it actually presents an opportunity for men to put their effort into creating a society where women and non-binary people don’t automatically fear men, especially cisgender men."

If you fear all men, you either have a phobia, and should seek mental help, or are sexist against men. Know what creates people who are afraid of men? People who believe this shit.

Ignorance

"This means that as opposed to just looking at someone as a man, they recognize that man as also being black, disabled, and poor, for example. "

Once again, something that basically every man is able to do. We aren't mentally challenged, and we know racism and sexism exist, it just isn't as crazy bad as whoever wrote this seems to think it is.

Rape Culture

No, no to this whole thing... Rapists are punished here, just being accused can destroy your life, let alone being found guilty.

"Ultimately, that means breaking the patterns that lead men to think that manipulating, hurting, or raping people is okay, and having men look at their actions and understand why people of marginalized genders just don’t trust men in many situations."

NO SANE MAN THINKS RAPE IS OK! We aren't all sociopaths, and if you don't trust men in many situations, you are a sexist!

Toxicity

"the simple fact that the masculinity that patriarchy has bred and enabled is extremely toxic."

Men can be masculine without being assholes, and this idea that men need to be more feminine is just crazy... we are different, on a biological, psychological level. Women will bring this up all the time when it works for them, like how "women develope earlier than men" or how "Women are better at multitasking", but they sure don't like it when its ever used against them.

"while also actively rejecting the notion that being violent or abusive or overbearing or condescending is normal."

What men does this person hang around with? NONE OF US THINK THIS.

In closing, this whole article is hate speech against men, nothing more. And you wonder why there aren't men at feminist functions? This, this is why.

EDIT: I was then muted for asking why after being sent a canned response that didn't address why I had been banned.