This is funny. The comment thread on a Jezebel article about "pegging" (girls with strap-ons penetrating their boyfriends) devolved into a discussion about whether allowing yourself to be penetrated is a submissive act.

aetheralloy · 2011-03-21T08:59:00+00:00

Jezebel is to feminism what an outhouse is to shit.

fondueguy · 2011-03-21T04:34:52+00:00

whether allowing yourself to be penetrated is a submissive act.

Yes, it is. Is this some big mystery to anyone?

fondueguy · 2011-03-21T05:04:17+00:00

From the 7 or so comments I saw the discussion and attitude aren't bad. I'm not seeing opinions being shoves down people's throats or talk about men doing something wrong (apart from the one patriarchy nut).

I like how they actually discussed the subject without making the focus on their own lives and benefits. They didn't make it too personal, which is impressive.

pakmanishere · 2011-03-21T17:28:34+00:00

It seems there are some women their who reject the suggestion that they are being dominated by hetero sex. If she's on top, she's dominating me.

They seem to have a lot of detailed advice on "pegging" so either they are actively practicing it on their BFs or they are lesbians.

thetrollking · 2011-03-23T10:47:56+00:00

I completely agree with you, in principle. That is one fucked-up mindset. However, I have to admit that it's a predominant cultural mindset that I have absorbed, however much I intellectually fight against it. At certain times, the act of being penetrated has felt very dominant to me, but more often I have found it not so much submissive as invasive and, in that sense, something that is done TO me (albeit with my consent - this second feeling is obviously enhanced when I have sex to please my partner, though I am not in the mood. At those times, I have a certain and sometimes strong resentment for the non-reciprocal nature of penetrative hetero sex). In the best sex, of course, those feelings of dominance or submission are either absent or exchanged between partners, but the "best sex" is by nature less frequent than the mundane sex.

All that being said, there is some political subversiveness to turning the tables and pegging your hetero partner that I find damned appealing. It's exactly because of the "creepy" mindset you nailed (ha) above that it stimulates me. And whether it's with my digits or an object, I want him to have an appreciation for what it is like to be penetrated. Plenty of times sex is just sex for me (fun, hot, dirty, dull, prescriptive, obligatory, foolish, dangerous, wild, drunken, drugged, quick, slow, deep, whatever, I've had all kinds). But sometimes I want him to know what it FEELS like to have a part of someone or something else inside of my body (not what it MEANS, understand, because it may or may not mean anything), but just how it feels. Because it can be very intimate and there can be a real degree of trust given there. I trust you not to hurt me, I trust you to listen to me, I trust you to think about how this feels for me right now too.

I think Kloo is right, if you want to see the future that feminism breeds then look at cuckold porn or femdom porn/erotica.

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