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fuzzypandabear · 2019-11-11T16:10:21+00:00

It's such an outdated idea that men should foot the bill. And it's an idea that really shouldn't be compatible with feminism (although a lot of women pull of mental gymnastics to convince themselves it is). If women and men are equal, if women want to be independent and fearless and all of that, then how are we still casting men into the archaic role of provider?

More than that-the financial objectification of men is directly related to male disposability. Men are only worth what they can give to us. It's gross.

I really urge all men to screen out awful women by not paying for any dates.

I think it would be a helpful dating strategy. Like I screened out guys only interested in sex by not having sex until several months in. I think men could screen out women only interested in money by not spending any money on them.

I believe in real equality and that is why I always paid for myself when my husband and I were dating. He wanted to pay for everything because he thought he HAD to if he wanted to keep me interested. He was a 24-year-old guy who'd never had a serious girlfriend, and his thinking was, "I gotta show her I can pay for shit." That's awfully sad. Instinctively men think they must entice women to love them through financial means.

Both men and women need to work together to solve this. Women are not sexual objects and men are not financial objects. We are all human beings with hearts and souls and we need to treat each other with decency.

nanan00 · 2019-11-11T16:24:56+00:00

If we are talking an exchange of goods for services then sure men can pay for food in exchange for services to be rendered. Aka prostitution, just own up to the business title and we can all get along much smoother.

spideyjiri · 2019-11-11T16:25:10+00:00

I don't even know what a raustarant is!

Ghostmouse88 · 2019-11-11T16:28:22+00:00

If she can’t even spell restaurant then you shouldn’t even waste your time.

BonelessSkinless · 2019-11-11T17:54:04+00:00

Her pitiful spelling and low IQ aside, women screech and bitch and whine about equality, yet you want to be pampered, catered and fully paid for when we go out? That's cute. You want equality? Pay for your own shit. Better yet you pay for both yours and mine. Yeah exactly, crickets real fucking quick.

grasshopa · 2019-11-11T15:59:20+00:00

Whenever I'd have this "discussion" with women, I'd always ask "So what's your responsibility here?". Just to see what they'd say.

I don't date anymore, and while this dynamic certainly isn't a large factor in the equation, it IS part of it. Got tired of being used by nut cases in their 30s who were suffering from baby rabies while at the same time "didn't need a man" but who seemed to need several....it was confusing.

Chrisafguy · 2019-11-11T16:27:55+00:00

"raustarant"

HungryLikeTheWolf99 · 2019-11-11T16:00:51+00:00

Uugh but sharing the bill is like sexisss!

someguy92614 · 2019-11-11T16:37:52+00:00

This is why a man should get paid more than a woman. I have never had a woman buy me a drink, let alone dinner. FTB

KneeDeepThought · 2019-11-11T16:40:55+00:00

According to the law, it's "You order it, you are obligated to pay for it." Everything else is a con job.

drmangrum · 2019-11-11T18:09:23+00:00

Sounds like she's admitting she's a whore to me.

Leroyjankins8989 · 2019-11-11T16:03:30+00:00

Nah I’d just flip it back and say if we are sticking with traditional roles then the woman is expected to put out after dinner.

g_man999 · 2019-11-11T16:27:32+00:00

The most offensive thing here is that shocking attempt at spelling ‘restaurant’.

causeimalive · 2019-11-11T16:21:38+00:00

Restaurant

lolzorken · 2019-11-11T16:31:06+00:00

Raustaraunt?! Did she finish middle school?

Preform_Perform · 2019-11-11T16:33:59+00:00

Tell you what, if you ever find a "raustarant", I'll pay the full bill for you!

Washys_finest · 2019-11-11T17:08:13+00:00

Never payed for their food. Well once or twice but that's if I'm close with em. I remember when a lass thought id be paying straight up and I said no cos she ordered expensive stuff. And it was a first date and then I payed for mine and left.

Istalriblaka · 2019-11-11T18:59:48+00:00

So what are your thoughts on history? Mankind and the human race? Women?

Tickle_Me_Schlomo · 2019-11-11T19:08:35+00:00

Pay for yourself and transport yourself, that way you maintain control, no one can force you into anything or guilt you into anything.

chinoz219 · 2019-11-11T20:39:10+00:00

i always thought the reason i pay is because, i asked her out. Like same thing with your parents, if you invite them to eat you foot the bill since its your treat.

tableender · 2019-11-12T19:26:49+00:00

The majority of women see a man asking the woman to split the bill on a first date as a shit test. He won't get a second date...... unless he looks like Brad Pitt or is very wealthy "The person asking the other out should pay" is the usual excuse, thereby ignoring that the majority of the time the man is doing the asking and an attractive girl could go all year without having to pay.

jakeinator21 · 2019-11-11T17:58:59+00:00

"raustarant"?

/r/excgarated

DrekkiWolfStorm · 2019-11-11T17:07:11+00:00

Well you cant really expect a very intelligent thing to come out of the mouth of someone who can't even spell restaurant correctly, can you?

Title	thought this belonged here
Author	ashamedseesaw
Upvotes	1400
Comments	51
Date	November 11, 2019 2:45 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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