This post could be pretty messy, I apology first

The word "enemy" here is a metaphoric term, I am not in anyway promoting aggressive behavior, we are a peaceful community but we will defend our belief if we have to.

I've been having some deep thoughts lately as to why are misandry so persistent and prevalent (outside of this community of course), if you actually take time to read subs like TwoXChromosomes , the pattern is pretty clear, its basically lies supporting lies, with enough numbers of people and louder voice, lies became the perceived "truth". No matter how logical and truthful you are, if you are in a group that had less numbers and are mostly silenced, you basically stands little chance of combating discrimination.

First let me get one thing straight to avoid misunderstanding. There is nothing WRONG with using the word "Feminist", since the feminism ideology is one of the main contributor to Misandry, which ultimately leads to the everyday discrimination we are facing.

But by only discussing the root of the problem might not addressing the currently situation, Its like we are in a middle of a Chess game, and we can't just magically start the game over, we will have to figure out the next step within the current composition, feminism won't just magically disappear, if you get what I mean.

There are downsides by ONLY using the word "feminist"

  1. Misandry could happen before feminism is even a thing, misandry could have been as long as human existed, in a nutshell although feminist having a better chance of becoming a misandrist but not all misandrists are feminists
  2. Most average misandrist don't even identify themselves with any ideology let alone feminism, just look at TwoXChromosomes, just how many of these people have any knowledge of what feminism even is? And there are rare instance where people that do identify as feminist actually supports men (I know its sound crazy, but there ARE even though rare feminists that actually do believe in equality), one example I came to mind is Cassie Jaye the producer of Red Pill Movie. Heck, even Warren Farrell used to be feminist.
  3. But we can't just use the word "Women" either because this is overly generalizing and keeping potential ally out of our doors, we really need any support we could get, including Women who supports us, its a numbers game after all. By saying stuff like "Woman hate us" we significantly increase the chance of aiming at the wrong people.

But there is one thing we could be undoubtedly sure of, our true enemies are universally the Misandrists. They don't have to identify as any ideology, they don't have to be in any political spectrum, they just simply hate men due to their own bias, heck they don't even have to be women. And FemaleDatingStrategy is the testament of what I've just said, trust me, even some feminists will not want to associate themselves with this level of garbage.

As trivial as it might sound, we would have to take one step at a time, and the first thing is that we need more supporters, by changing the way we address our enemy, it might not be much in the short term, but it could give us significantly more ally in the long term. Because what we are doing now is basically Aiming more accurately towards our true enemy while avoiding possible friendly fire or collateral damage as much as possible.

I remember last year, when I introduce men's right to one of my best female friend who consider herself a feminist that believed in true equality, when I explained to her our concept she 100% agreed and supportive, but after she start browsing some of the online MRA communities, she start feeling disconnect "I really wanted to help you guys, but I just don't know where I fit into" she told me.

I mean clearly she is a feminist, but she is not a misandrist.

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What those toxic misandrist community often lies about us is by depicting us as a community that exist solely for bashing feminists, so maybe if we actually use the word misandrist, then we are not bashing feminists, because that is what we actually meant in the first place: We are combating discrimination against men as gender by putting counter argument towards the Misandrists that disguise themselves as other ideology in reality are just wolf wearing sheep's cloth.

And by claim that, I assume even feminists couldn't disagree with that argument.