A friend of mine was with the same girl for 3 years. After a year they had a son together. The girl is a horrible person, but my friend put up with it for his son. She manipulated, bullied, and guilted him the entire time. making sure she was always taken care of.

She barely worked while he supported the three of them. He even supported for while shen was pregnant, and after 8 1/2 months she told him the child might not be his. because at that point she didn't need him anymore. But he stuck by her and had a DNA test done.

His mother passed away,and the girl guilted him into using money his mother left him to purcashe things as investments for their future. He bought a plot of land next to her mother's house. When buying the land the girl put her name on the title without his permission. Making it half hers. She also took some of the money left by his mother and put it into CDs with ehr name on them.

Now they are splitting up and all my friend cares about is his son. he just wants time with his son. The girl doesn't like to work so she is trying to drastically limit the time my friend has with his son. All so the child support will be higher and she will get more money.

My friend works 60 hour weeks and has had his son every single day he has had off since they decided to split. All because he loves him and wants time with him and take care of him. At the same time he is still helping the girl financially because it helps his son.

This girl is making outrageous demands, and clearly just wants money, but the system is putting it all on my friend. He has to stand up and explain why he should get to see his son more than every other weekend, why he isn;t the bad guy in this situation. Everything is defaulted to the girl's benefit.

She is this horrible person using my friend's son to manipulate and pressure him in to agreeing on things. If the girl gets what she wants my friend will be paying a little over $400 a month in child support. Which is a little over 20% of what he makes. he couldn't afford to support himself paying that much.

He has his son so often that his lawyer suggestied thinking about pushign for full custody. Either way he will be doign the bulk of supporting his son. If he won full custody the mother would pay $85 a month. That's it, eighty-five dollars. All because she works so little and our state bases child support on income.

They would take so much from him that he couldn't support himself all while he had the kid half of the time anyway paying for whatever on that half. But to give her less time and him more meansshe only has to pay $85.

They want to give him a hard tiem because he is responsible and make enough money to support his son. because he does that the girl is entitled to 20%? My friend wants to be a father and wants to support his son, but he is just scared because he couldn't afford $400 a month. No matter how this plays out he is going o do the bulk of supprting the child.

Everyone is putting the pressure on him to fight and defend his requests.. While this girl who is a horrible person just gets a pass for being a horrible person. Because of this pressure my frind is too scared to ask for one day out of every week to not have his son. He is an adult and has adult responsibilities he needs to take care of, and he is entitled to a life. He is just scared that if he asks for the day the system and the girl will use it as ammunition against him.

All the girl wants is money. My friend just wants to settle on a reasonable amount to where he can actually afford somewhere to live, and food to eat. The girl just wants to work as little as possible and this doesn't even matter. My friend has stepped up, supporting his son and still helping to support the girl. He let her have everything she wanted when they split. He only asked for his fishing stuff and a chair his dead mother gave him in hopes of reupholstering it and one day passing it on to his son. And she actually called him selfish because he took it.

She did offer to pay him for HALF of the land. Of course she offered to pay for it with the money from one of the CDs she opened.

i mean she is doing nothing but asking for money, nothing but using his love for his son against him.. All for money,but in the eyes of the system and everyone else he is the one who has to defend himself. Why should he get to see his son, why shouldn't he pay over %20 of his monthly pay check..

Having a kid means being responsible. It's not pay what you can bgased on your income, but the woman is getting a break because she just donesn't like to work...

She was making crazy demands, such as claiming their son EVERY year on taxes whule my friend was the one doing the bulk of the supporting. She wanted somethign set up so if for some reason she lost her current job that my firend would have to help her out financially.. And they shut that down.. But the stupidity of asking for such things didn't even make her look bad.

My friend is still the one who has to fight for everything he wants, while everything is defaulted to the mother otherwise. It's not a two sided fight, where they each present their case.. he's all ready the one who has to prove he deserves anything. And I'm just woried for him because he loves his son, he puts his son first, he is a great father, etc. The mother wants money, and doesn't put the son first. And she doesn't compromise or work with my friend. If my friend says no to her she acts liek he is absurd but then when she should legitimately be helpign him with somethign she just tels him how it's inconvenient and his problem.. i just thought the people here might understand. And I wanted to voice my disdain for the system.

I can't wrap my head around it.. He works hard to support his son and has him half of the time and they want to still make him pay 400 a month. But she can have him the son for less time and because she chooses to be irresponsible and not workthey would make her pay less money.

And i know it sounds horrible to speak of numbers when a child is involved.. But my firend needs to eat.. And no matter how it works out.. he will do the biggest part of supporting the child. And it's just not fair that this horrible girl can egt away with all of this. She has no remorse.. And the system doesn't even care. Taht doesn't even mean anything..

If I werea judge I'd do a sort of social experiment. i'd say, Miss, you're asking to have your son for the majority of the time. You're volunteering for that, correct? And then when she says yes I'd say, Okay, but the father will pay you little to no money for child support since you are volunteering to take the son. he is losing in the deal anyway, losing all of these critical moments with his son. Then I'd watch her expression just to see how willing she was to have the son the majority of the time when it meant paying for the majority of everything.

His only crime is loving his son and being a nice guy.

She is so money hungry she is willing to keep my friend from critical moments of his sons life for more money. She doesn't really watch him. She leaves him at her mom's while she goes out. She has no remorse for any of this, and the system rewards her.