Does Christian masculinity require born again Christian men to remain abstinent until marriage?

emmaacip · 2025-04-18T13:29:28+00:00

That's a no brainer. Ofc you should not.

rocknrollchuck · 2025-04-18T15:32:07+00:00

Here's a list that was shared years ago by OrlandoTheAxe, you may find it helpful:

Welcome! Here are some tips that have helped me in my ongoing battle. I can't speak much for sleeping around outside of marriage, but the principles are the same.

1. Make a firm commitment to sexual purity.

Burn, throwaway, or delete any sexually explicit items or media that you own. Install blockers on your devices if you need to. Don't indulge one last time before going on a streak. Start today. It is a life change, not a streak.

2. Learn to see porn and unbiblical manifestations of sex for what they really are.

Did you know that Israel has used porn as weapon against Palestine? Pornography and masturbation will drag you into depression, impair your ability to think clearly, and reduce your motivation. You become weak, docile, and impotent. The porn industry knows this, so it tries to silence and defame anyone who calls it out. Just look at how mainstream porn companies are responding to this year's No Nut November challenge.

Degeneracy begets more degeneracy. The more you indulge, the less satisfying it will be, and the further into depravity you will have to go to get the same feeling. You're perspective and priorities will be warped, and you'll do things you said you'd never do. Don't be fooled.

Learn to associate porn and masturbation with the destruction and emptiness that it brings in the long term instead of the 10 seconds of pleasure immediately afterwards.

3. Focus on self-improvement.

Taking away your one easy dopamine hit while living a life that makes you sad and unhealthy will almost always end in relapse. If you can make things better for yourself, it will be easier for you to stay the course. Exercise makes a big difference.

4. Accountability and brothers at arms.

Accountability is effective. What's even more effective is finding folks who can fight alongside you or guide you in your journey. You celebrate each other's successes and learn from each other's failures.

5. Exposure to media that advocates sexual purity.

Media like THE BIBLE. There are also some real gems among the NoFap community. You have to unlearn the lies of the corrupt culture and seek out the truth.

6. Stop beating yourself up.

Fixating on failure will undermine your motivation. You'll end up bingeing if you do this. Instead, pray, repent, and move on. You aren't going to fix it all at once. Everything doesn't reset when you relapse. Keep going.

7. Don't fixate on not relapsing.

The best way to do this is to find other, more important things to focus on. When urges come, let them pass. If you tense up and fixate on them, they will stick around much longer. You will not be horny forever; it will pass.

8. Stay busy.

You are more likely to struggle with urges and give in when you are bored or idle. The solution is to stay active. You can go entire days without thinking about sex at all if you stay engaged.

Bed times and wake-up times are the kryptonite here. For bed times, adhere to a regular sleep schedule and don't do things that aren't conducive to sleep right before bed (like browsing reddit on your phone). Some folks have also reported that meditating for 5 minutes before bed prevents urges. For wake-up times, you just gotta get up quickly. If you're horny, go pee; it helps take you out of the mood.

9. Pray.

Arguably the most important tool. Nothing can be done apart from the will of the God who created everything. The Holy Spirit can aid you in your struggle.

So hop on the wagon! This isn't a desperate struggle; it's a march on to glory! It's No Nut November, the month where there is an abundance of memes to motivate you, and the culture shows its true colors. Best of luck to you brother!

*Edit: formatting

Julonix · 2025-04-18T13:35:24+00:00

Yes, remain abstinent.

Although, be careful to not fall into the trap of being a prude. Nothing wrong with liking & being attracted to good looking women. I mean, how else are you gonna find a hot wife? Just don’t dwell on the thought of them for too long.

vitrael3 · 2025-04-18T13:37:54+00:00

Yes.

Genesis 2:24
Hebrews 13:4
1 Corinthians 7:2

ccrains · 2025-04-18T21:39:07+00:00

You used the word “masculinity” and “warrior” and those words go beyond just abstinence and nofap. Sexual mastery is the goal, whereby you take the sexual energy given to you and harness it into your growth and your mission.

pizzalover24 · 2025-04-18T14:42:09+00:00

What's important is you are looking to get married and you are taking your time to get to know someone truly before you become a pair. So many times in my life, my body was drawn to a woman for her body but then a few months later, the attraction wore off when I developed an apathy to their personality.

Sex is not bad. It's the lack of interest towards someone after one or more sexual encounters that's wrong

steadfastkingdom · 2025-04-18T21:15:57+00:00

Conquering our sin through Christ

Praexology · 2025-04-19T01:06:14+00:00

Does Christian masculinity require born again Christian men to remain abstinent until marriage?

There is no christian masculinity, just masculinity. There are components that are incongruent to faith, but whats youre trying to do is a symptom of insecurity.

Dont waste your intellectual energy trying to figure out how you are secretly more masculine than the buff rich womanizing chad next to you secretly because you can't get laid and that feelz bad.

Title	Does Christian masculinity require born again Christian men to remain abstinent until marriage?
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