Purity question

Dirachi · 2018-02-04T03:06:53+00:00

I'm sure that more senior members will be able to give you a more detailed response.

In case you need a more immediate answer:

Why on Earth are you telling her you want to see her again. Do yourselves both a favour and leave, lest you both are tempted further.

Dating or any romantic endeavour for that matter is to assess compatibility for a christ-centred marriage. What you are describing clearly does not fit the bill.

"Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" (2 Cor. 6:14-15).

Red-Curious · 2018-01-31T05:12:27+00:00

My ex set me up with her roommate last weekend.

What the flying spaghetti monster?!? Read up on hypergamy? Don't take dating recommendations from your ex. She does not have your best interests in mind.

The girl I was set up with is not a Christian

2 Cor. 6, yadda yadda. Don't date non-Christians. Period. Next.

I feel like towed the line with making out

I literally just answered this question to someone else yesterday by PM. Here's what I wrote:

This is an issue talked about quite often and the consensus is that there is no consensus. Everyone is different and has their own boundaries. My wife and I dated for over a year before using the word "love." After that, I would kiss her cheek, hand, neck, shoulder, or other innocuous places, and she to me, but they were only pecks. When I was ready to propose, we kissed on the lips for the first time. A month after that we started tongue kissing. A couple months later we started making out while sitting down, then a week later we started making out while laying down. A month after that we started making out with my hand on her belly under her shirt, but never touching her breasts or going below the waist. That was as far as we went, then we were married a couple months later. So, in the 6 months that we were engaged, you can see how physical affection started escalating quite quickly.

Now, that's just my story, and I have no regret about any of that because I actually did marry her. If I had broken up with her, I would classify a lot of what we did as sinful because I was certainly lusting over her in my heart and mind, which is only vindicated if she actually is my wife (in my view, that applies regardless of when the actual covenant is established).

Any advice on how to approach this from a Christ-like frame and postion of godly humility and repentace?

You've got to call it off immediately and ghost your ex. You can't get over her while she's still around ... at least not with where your frame appears to be right now. Maybe down the road, but it's going to make both your spiritual and RP journies much harder.

lololasaurus · 2018-01-31T08:05:28+00:00

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 2 Corinthians 6:14‭-‬15 KJV

Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Proverbs 6:27 KJV

I really don't see how anything pure can come of this investment of your time.

rocknrollchuck · 2018-01-31T13:51:15+00:00

1 Corinthians 7:8

"Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

1 Corinthians 7:36-38

"If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.

But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing. So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better."

In your post in the Christianity sub a month ago you said:

I am a 25 year old male, I've always believed in waiting until marriage until I have the act of intercourse which I believe is a sacred act between two in a holy union.

Lately, I've been struggling a lot with my own sexual desire. The wonderful girl I've been hanging out with is respectful of my "no-sex" rule, but she is not a Christian and I believe she would be down to clown if I told her I sincerely changed my mind. My want for sex is so, so, so strong. I just want a good Christian woman, it just seems like an impossible ...... search sometimes.

I know my desire to sleep with her is not just driven by the flesh but also my own (society and sin) induced shame as a male for still being a virgin at my age.

I would greatly appreciate any thoughts or advice on how to stay strong and motivated in my situation. I would also really like some reassurance that my decision to remain chaste is the right one and is worthy of commendation rather than of mockery.

You're playing with fire in my opinion. You will give in to temptation at some point if you keep messing around with girls, especially non-Christian ones who most likely don't share your desire for purity. My advice would be to stop dating for a while and build your relationship with God first. Ask Him to bring you the right woman at the right time. You desire to have someone - that desire is put in you by God. He will fulfill it in His timing if you choose to trust His will.

1 Corinthians 6:18 says "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body."

2 Timothy 2:22 says "Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart."

God's Word makes it clear what you are to do in this situation. It's up to you to obey Him. Or not.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-01-31T16:11:00+00:00

I never wasted my valuable time dating non-Christians. If it is important to you and a deal breaker, have it be a deal breaker.

Time is your most important resource - don't waste it unnecessary.

Willow-girl · 2018-02-02T06:53:23+00:00

It's late here, so I'll be brief. 1) Have a mission for your life. 2) Evaluate everything as it pertains to your mission. Does it enhance or detract from it? 3) Avoid things that detract from your mission.

Title	Purity question
Author	the_cheesiest
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	January 31, 2018 2:22 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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