So I may have just had the most awkward 1 hour conversation in my whole life, haha. (Background: I’ve been having a couple dates with a lovely guy but I became concerned when I realised he wanted to travel in the future, I mean hiking and very full-on, while I am basically ready to settle down).

I decided to wait until he asked me to a second date and then just as I agreed to it, I asked if he would be fine with giving me a class so I can get his thoughts about something. Soon enough he called and wow, despite what I thought I wanted to say I got nervous. I’ve never really had to have this kinda talk with someone before.

I mentioned that I admire his passion for his travels and that I believed he deserves to pursue them, everyone has their ‘thing’ and so do I. I think we’re both nervous, since we kept sidetracked and getting distracted by related topics, then after a few minutes I’d lead it back to what I wanted to say. I also reminded him about what I feel about travel - that I have just a single trip I want to do and then I want to move to the next chapter in my life, settling. He just replied, ‘Yes, well that’s great…’

I elaborated further.

He basically said the same thing again.

I really thought he didn’t get what I meant (maaan I was starting to feel really silly here).

So I just went the blunt way and said: I don’t know if that’s a clash to your travel plans, the fact I’m wanting to in a general sense, settle after that trip. I’ve had dates before go a few times just to realise it wasn’t very fruitful because we had major differences. I thought you needed to know what I thought, I enjoy spending time with you and you take initiative, look after us and I don’t want you to keep doing so if you don’t think it will become meaningful. (Something along those lines).

He sounded very relaxed and basically said he thought about that already and he doesn’t think it’s a clash. He does have trips he wants to make but not more than a month/two and just 3 left, he didn’t believe it would clash with a family life.

“I’m not put away by that.”

I was dumbfounded so after yet another awkward silence I chuckled and said, well let’s continue then. So…I have a fun date this Tuesday that he’s planned, we’re going bowling? 😅