Stepping back at work

Buckley92 · 2021-02-18T11:58:38+00:00

Tell him that it's a non negotiable, and you are in pain. That you are NOT being selfish for not wanting to be in physical.pain anymore and shorten your life anymore, and you are NOT being selfish for wanting to care about your own needs for once.

If he declares your marriage to be over or threatens you with divorce because of it, he's a horrible, low value man who only loves money. Any real husband would insist a wife in physical pain would step down from their job and find something less stressful.

I'd look for a strong, experienced divorce lawyer to protect your assets from him if he hints at divorce.

Tell your family that if they are anything less than supportive, they will no longer be welcome.

ThatStepfordGal · 2021-02-18T07:53:49+00:00

Minimalise your life. The quality that you live is what matters, having the basics and making it through. Your husband should be stepping up, especially if he’s the captain of your family. Think to when you’re much older, retired. No one in their 80s ever says they wish they worked more. It’s not worth it to what you trade away.

Jikira · 2021-02-18T15:23:05+00:00

Hmm I work in tech, this seems more like a company issue then industry. I don’t know what field within tech you do, but I have been a software engineer, tpm, and currently am a devops engineer. I make it a point not to stay at any company that does not fit my lifestyle. Sometimes it just a team issue as well. If you decide to leave tech, be wary because most good careers have bad employers. Jobs have to be vetted as well and you have to be willing to walk away. Which is personally ok!

I tell everyone this but if you want a work life balance you need to set boundaries when you start and leave if they break them.

In regards to your husband, I say the best thing to do is bring to him a plan. Have your next steps already lined up. I don’t have any comments on his reaction, because I’m sure most people will have an emotional response towards the higher income spouse wanting to change their careers. I don’t really think it necessarily means he loved you only for the money. Have you talked to him at all though? It seems you are speculating what he would do.

On a side note I developed a condition where I have intense migraines as well. It really effected my work performance.

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Title	Stepping back at work
Author	Frosting_Pretty1111
Upvotes	15
Comments	11
Date	February 18, 2021 5:51 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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