Hi ladies,

I wanted to post an update to this post I made a month ago.

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/mzsx69/dog_dilemma/

I appreciated everyone’s advice so much! The timing of my question was interesting because right after I asked, I read this post -

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/n7kegs/men_are_not_made_of_porcelain/

Which was so perfect for my actual “dilemma” as well.

I grew up the oldest child and was known to be “bossy” as a little girl, my parents nicknamed me “queenie” - I guess because I had to be in charge of everything!

Now that I’ve been viewing my past relationships through a redpill lens, I’ve realized how as an adult when I thought I was being assertive, independent, or even “cute” in a bossy way, I actually probably sounded quite bitchy and unattractive. So even though I know men weren’t made of porcelain- I wanted to find a new way to communicate healthy boundaries and needs. And you ladies have me the perfect language.

I waited until the next time we were together in person and his dog came up naturally in conversation at one point over lunch. I said something along the lines of, “yeah actually (dogs name) really worries me.” And he asked what I meant and I explained that I didn’t think the dog was a good listener, and he had nipped at me, and that makes me uncomfortable as a mom and I wasn’t sure that I wanted my daughters around him.

In between bites he causally said something like, “yeah, that’s understandable. Maybe you can tell me some of that stuff you’re learning in dog training with your dogs.”

Haha and that was it! I looped him in to some of the techniques and philosophy I’ve learned and he started implementing it right away. I tried not to be a know-it—all and would really only address issues that he brought up or asked about. I would say, “well the dog trainer said...” or “I tried this with my dogs and was amazed at what a difference it’s made”

And honestly, there have been no more issues with the dog. He stopped jumping and my bf started commanding him and taking control of situations. I think the main thing was that the dog thought he was in charge and my bf had no idea. Like he thought it was fine if the dog pulled ahead on walks the whole time and didn’t realize that was signaling to the dog that he was alpha. Im sure there is more training to be done, but once the hierarchy was recalibrated, there were no more major issues.

It was so refreshing to have an issue, bring it up in a non confrontational way, and then have such an easy solution! Thank you all for helping me find my words on how to approach this situation. :)