Vent about overwhelm

Mewster1818 · 2021-08-08T23:33:35+00:00

It's okay to ask your spouse for help, especially if you're also working full-time.

Managing the house and extra stuff is part of the housewife's responsibilities because she's not contributing financially...

I'm sure your spouse would understand considering how much you're currently shouldering! Don't forget that husband's like being able to help and be useful too... it's part of what makes them feel needed and fulfilled, and it's not like you built your current life up by yourself, it was made as a team.

anothergoodbook · 2021-08-08T23:48:17+00:00

I work part time and am homeschooling/raising 4 kids. I told my husband I was very overwhelmed by everything but didn’t want to involve him because he works very hard also. He said since I’m working it sort of even out that he helps our more at home. He just needs me to tell him what I need.

Are you working toward the ability to stay home? Can you sell your home and find something smaller?

I would suggest sitting down and prayerfully consider your top priorities for now and in the future. Perhaps if your husband is willing to sit with you on this you could talk about it together. Are there areas you can/should/absolutely have to step back from? Are there areas you could hire someone to help? Are there people in your church community that can help with your parents (or in their church community)?

acgs1995 · 2021-08-09T12:52:12+00:00

Oh my God, I totally understand you. I’m crying just to think it’s Monday again.

I got a new job after being fired but to be honest, I’d LOVE to be a SAHM. I decided to cut back in helping the church so much… I’m going to donate more money instead. As for my parents and in laws, I’m going to cut back seeing them every weekend. Once a month to my parents and once a month for my mother.

I just can’t do this anymore. My house is never really clean, I’m always tired, my husband works from 7:50 am to 22 pm.

If you can’t work a part time job (I can’t too) I recommend you to slowly stop doing some of the things you mentioned. I know this is not ideal, but I just can’t do this anymore.

I find it is slowly making me a bad wife. I’m always tired, moody… I need to focus on my husband and on my first. Sorry I couldn’t help you, I’m on the same boat.

TitubaMoi · 2021-08-09T15:17:41+00:00

When I'm overwhelmed, I sometimes sit down and make a schedule. I approach it the same way I approach making a budget.

First, I write down the ways that I ACTUALLY spend my time. I write down everything- how much time I spend cooking, cleaning, commuting, playing on my phone, etc.

Then, I write down what I actually want to do with my time. Usually when I write things down, I find I have more time than I'd expected.

I keep daily and weekly lists of work deadlines, personal goals, and family goals. Every morning, I drink a cup of coffee, read the Bible, and make my daily list. I usually plan one cleaning task for each day, 5 workouts a week, and one special outing for the kids. I try to leave lots of time on the weekends for family stuff.

My husband is not very good at cleaning either, but he has gotten way better. He does the laundry, makes the breakfasts, does some of the shopping and a decent share of the dishes, plus pitching in randomly and supervising the kids' chores.

Vent about overwhelm

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Title	Vent about overwhelm
Author	_prairiebaby
Upvotes	12
Comments	13
Date	August 8, 2021 11:04 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWives
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